The Friday Blues


Well we made it to Friday again. Believe me there were parts of the week where I had my doubts. Sometimes I forget to trust in a higher power. I have never been accused of being meek and mild. I don’t come from that type of stock. Like my Viking ancestors I tend to club first and talk later.

Monday is coming at me pretty fast and when the surgical nurse called to make sure I had all my shit together for the surgery it became real. Now I’m just trying to keep my anxiety at a manageable level. It’s hard.

OU Boy is helping by distracting me with curtain choices and shopping. I moved in April and still only had chosen curtains for my bedroom. I wanted to live in my space for a bit and see what I wanted. So now we have curtains in the living room. I also popped into my local Goodwill and although I didn’t need it, I found a vintage Lane coffee table that was selling on EBay for 1,900.00. As we are hauling it out the door ladies are grabbing my hands and oohing and ahing over my find. “Oh my gosh I’m so happy for you! A Lane!” Seriously one lady hugged me she was so excited. $20 people. I wanted to go next door but the lady in the red Mercedes was eyeing the back of the truck and I wasn’t quite sure if she would make a grab for the table. I go to the Goodwill in the wealthy neighborhood and those gals love a bargain!

So today I’m not sure what we have going on so I’m going to hole up in my office and read!

xx Enjoy your Friday! Patricia


Good Morning! Just having our regular Irish Breakfast today. Not fancy but it gets the job done.

I have to admit I have not been the calmest person this week. A friend of mine who is a wonderful man was suspended from his job indefinitely and without pay for something to do with racism. Since this guy doesn’t even have any white friends I seriously doubt this charge. Apparently it stems from the new guy getting in trouble for messing up a pump and not liking the talking to he got. All of this comes back to October when the guys were told to make Halloween decorations for the party. Nooses included. My guy wasn’t involved in that portion and the guys that were just left them hanging in the shop basement later. He has proof of this. His co-workers are appalled. His boss knows this. Everyone who knows him is in shock. But he made the HR lady look dumb once and she isn’t nice.

The HR person fired the guy who is making the claims when he worked for her at the sister property and now he’s working at this club. Weird, right? She hired him here. Same lady. So I have been on my soapbox so much that my friend received a text asking if he knew someone named Patricia R, Since he was told he couldn’t discuss this with anyone he didn’t answer.

Seriously guys you shouldn’t pick on people for your own malicious reasons when they have a best friend with ICE connections and 75% of your workforce has no papers and don’t speak English. When your manager is keeping women in his condo. When I know where all the bodies are buried. Because you can mess with me, but not my friends. I will unleash the gates of hell on you.

My friend is heartbroken about this. That anyone would think this of him. Especially when he just received a job offer from Langston University. Look it up if you are unfamiliar with it. So although he had planned to take his vacation time anyway to look for other opportunities to use his newly minted Class 1 Supervisor licence, it kind of worked well. But I’m still not letting this woman get away with breaking Federal and State Labor laws. Nope. Not happening.

So yeah, that’s what I’ve been doing. Trying to keep my mind off of my own surgery by championing my friends. And much like messing with my babies, all bets are off. Yes, I am that person and I am not afraid to say it. I will drag every one of your dirty little secrets into the light and not lose one nights sleep over it.

So thanks for listening to me rant! Seriously you don’t even have to read this, I just feel better sharing it.  So have Courage dear hearts, I will not let you down!

xx Patricia

Waiting Out The Anxiety Fairy

It is a Chamomile kind of day here. It was raining when I woke up and now the sun is out.

The Anxiety Fairy has been here for two days now and this morning I even took an anxiety med. Normally I only take one at night, but some pretty ugly things have been going on in the world and I am already on high alert with the surgery countdown so I’m a bit stressed.

Yesterday the kids and I went to Barnes and Noble for a bit. Corbin wanted a LEGO magazine and Charli wanted a bathing suit for her American Girl doll which costs more than what I spent on my own bathing suit. So no swimming for Claire! Instead we got a book. And fresh from the oven chocolate chip cookies.

None of us have been in the pool this week. Since their PaPa is on vacation this week and next week, he can take them to tennis and pool today. Leaving me to dwell on stuff and make the anxiety worse or immerse myself in another world all together via books.

I can tell this vacation thing is going to be a trial. He has turned the television on. Before night-time. There is noise in the house and I should probably hit re-set and start my mental day over. OMMMMM.

Enjoy your day and I will try to get through mine!

xx Patricia



Good Tuesday Morning! I don’t know about you but my normal schedule has taken a vacation somewhere. This morning I’m sticking with the Rooibos tea. To me it’s very calming and I need that.

I’m counting down the days to eye surgery. 6 days until Monday. Yesterday I had a bit of a scare when my eye pressure went way up. I was putting pressure drops in every 2 hours and by last night it was better. But I was a wreck. I think I had too much sun over the weekend and maybe got splashed in the eye.

We had such a great weekend. While the boys golfed we girls floated blissfully in the pool. Taking hundreds of pictures of the kids in various poses jumping into the water. Miss Charli Ava is an artist at this. Her shots look like some type of ninja moves. Corbin on the other hand has just the one signature move. Jump. No flash, no Esther Williams moves. But he can jump in and bob up and down in the water.

There was a lot of grapes and popsicles  while we rested and watched Stranger Things, one Momma fell asleep and then the guys came home and we were back in the pool hearing those familiar words….WATCH ME! Finally everyone went home and we went to bed!

As I went to straighten up their room yesterday and gather any hidden laundry I noticed that bit by bit they are moving stuff into my house! Like Kate Hudson in How To Lose A Guy In 10 Days. When asked about said stuff the little one said, “Well I wasn’t going to say anything until I was done.”

Today we are calming down and I am hoping to get at least 10 reviews in the draft box and clear my email.  I hope you have a productive day. And even if it’s iced, take a moment to slow your roll and sip some tea!

xx Patricia

Gypsy’s Tearoom In Maryland

It has been more than 20 years since Gypsy Fleck opened her shop, which initially started as a retail only store selling loose-leaf teas and various teaware. It wasn’t until her second year of business that she decided to host a special afternoon tea for Mother’s Day. One tea was all it took for customers to come forward and ask for it to become a regular afternoon event.

Occupying a historic white house built circa 1760, Gypsy’s Tearoom has four official rooms where tea is served, and a gift shop that sells sundry teas and accoutrements. Along with the different dining options for tea, one of the tearoom’s standout features is the scones, which are rotated daily.

Tea services range from $10.50 to $29.95 plus tax per person and can be enjoyed from 10 to 4 Tuesday through Saturday. Reservations are a must.

111 Stoner Ave, Westminster, MD 21157       (410) 857-0058   Try it out and let us know what you think.

Happy Father’s Day Y’all!

Good Morning! Happy Father’s Day to all of you Dads out there! It doesn’t have to be Father’s Day for me to appreciate all of the things that made my Daddy so special.

My first date. We were not allowed to date until we were 16 and believe you me we already had a guy picked out! But my mother was in the hospital so my Daddy took me to Altman’s and bought me a new outfit. My Daddy answered the door and asked the Campbell boy if he had forgotten his socks. He instructed said boy to have his daughter home by 10 p.m. and no funny business.

I was back before 10 because there was funny business. Daddy had 4 girls, and a gun. And though I only heard him curse once, any boys coming to our house knew better than be on his bad side. When we got caught smoking and our Momma lost her ever-loving mind, she told Daddy to take us and the cigarettes for a drive and a chat. We went to his work and he let us have one last puff before they went into the trash. He remembered what it was like to be a teenager.

He had a wicked sense of humor and could tell and sing all of the Scottish tunes to us and make us laugh until we cried. When I got married at 18 and was not prepared for sex I went to the hotel lobby and called my Daddy who told me to come on home. I did.

We sang in the church choir together and in a production of Oklahoma! once. He left way too soon for any of us and we were 4 lost little girls with no anchor. It’s been 8 years and no it never gets any better. With him you knew you were loved. And that made us feel safe and secure. He taught us the value of hard work, honesty and truly loving thy neighbor.

I gave my husband and son the gift of golf. They are out of here, although we face timed with them before they teed off so the babies could say hello. Now we are off to continue watching Stranger Things which is awesome!!

Happy Father’s Day Guys!!!

xx Patricia and the Tiny Terrorists

Lazy Days of Summer

Good Morning! I am all alone today so there will be some shenanigans at some point. Yesterday Harney & Sons had a 50% off Happy Hour! I picked up some iced blends so we’ll check those out soon. Everything is pretty much iced now. It’s hot.

Yesterday we worked on our serve and then took Pinky to the pool. Where Miss Charli Ava lounged around like Cleopatra on her barge. I counted this morning and besides this behemoth of a float, which is lazing in my bedroom, we have 11 floats. Chairs, loungers, kickers, novelty floats. Our bathroom constantly looks like mermaids live there.

After a week of non-stop activity, we called it an early day and were inside at noon eating grapes and watching the first season of Stranger Things. Which is strange and addictive.

Since it is Father’s Day this Sunday, I gave my guys the gift of no children and golf. So if you two are reading this. You have an early tee time!

I don’t mind talking to the kids about any topic, but sometimes I don’t think they are old enough to understand the subject matter just yet. The other day Corbin noticed that a good friend of mine had a rainbow over her profile picture. Corbin asked why so I told him I’m pretty sure she is celebrating Pride Month.

Corbin: What is pride?

Me: When you are very proud of something.

Corbin: Gramma I’m really proud you didn’t burn the waffles.

Me: Me too, lovey, me too.

The care and feeding of Aunt Gayle’s cats was a flop. I walked into the house, turned on the lights and saw this thing staring at me. I have never in my life seen a cat that big. It must weigh 40 pounds and I turned right around and ran out the door and into the car! So poor Tommy had to clean the litter and feed the 2 inside cats and the 6 or so outside cats that aren’t hers even. And they are rough-looking.  I will not be participating in this activity again!

Enjoy your Saturday and Father’s Day. I’m looking forward to lazing around on Pinky and reading a book!

xxoo Patricia

This Weeks Adventures with Tea and the Heat

Y’all it has been hot. That Oklahoma dry, burn your feet type of hot. And we’ve been drinking the heck out of this Harney and Sons Blueberry Green Tea. It is so good. And yesterday lo and behold I noticed that Target is selling it along with a great variety of their other teas as well.

We have our days pretty well planned. Tennis early and then the pool and then inside for lunch, hydrate and a rest or shopping. Yesterday was way over 100 and since we needed to buy a new blender, we shopped. Corbin wanted to spend some of his piggy bank money on something he found at Bed,Bath and Beyond. A Olaf waffle maker. Yes, the same five-year old that asked for a printer for Christmas is now buying appliances. I blame Gordon Ramsey for this.

I don’t have a waffle iron for a reason. They are messy. But I can’t say no to this boy and we came directly home, read the instructions, the kids measured everything and watched the clock on the stove and in 5 minutes we had Olaf shaped waffles. And a mess. They had so much fun and didn’t even realize they were learning math.

Then we headed to our neighborhood Pops and had dinner. Corbin had a minor melt down when they put whipped cream on his chocolate shake. You can’t dip your fries in your shake if there is whipped cream on it. Luckily his sister generously offered to take the whipped cream and we averted a major melt down.

I’m trying to stay busy and not get too anxious for the next surgery. I’m doing okay. Except at night. I’m waking up several times a night with horrible dreams. I found a dead bird in the pool skimmer the other day and now all of my dreams are of me opening the skimmer and a snake popping out. I blame the news.

Today is a quiet day. No children today. Just have to run by Aunties house and feed the cats while she is in Washington. So I’m off to read!

Enjoy your day. Always be kind to yourself. You are your own greatest treasure! (Corbin’s words)

xx All of us at The Pirate Nation


Monday morning is hot and sunny. We are truly into summer here. This morning I’m loving this Blueberry Green Iced Tea. Very hydrating and just tastes like summer.

I’ve also been thinking a lot about balance. I can’t be all things to all people. It’s difficult to find balance. Between work, home, children and partners. When I’m 100% there for my babies, I’m ignoring work. When I’m working, I am totally in the zone and ignoring my family. I find it hard to say NO to anything, well except cooking, I say no to that on a daily basis.

How do we find time to nurture ourselves? And why do I feel so darned guilty when I do say no and spend an entire day floating in the pool, doing absolutely nothing? With all of the recent suicides I have come to realize that when you’re dead, you’re dead. Life will go on and all those people will find someone else to do my job and it won’t have mattered that I worked my ass off. No one is crawling in the grave with you and you’ve wasted precious time being miserable.

I work better with a routine. I work until 10 a.m. then I lay around and read, which is technically work but also a passion. I like to have everything done by the time OU Boy gets home and from then on I don’t even get on the computer. He has all of my attention whether he wants it or not. When the babies are here I follow the same schedule and just incorporate them into my day. The only person getting short-changed is me. I feel selfish taking time to do nothing. And that is where Yoga comes in to play. It feels like a guilty indulgence but it helps me to keep my balance.

That is what the topic is today, balance, and how we maintain that. Because this is my life. This is your life. No one can tell you how to live it. Unless you’re a nun, then maybe they can and do. But you aren’t a nun. You are a woman. Busy and being pulled in a million different direction and you somehow manage to balance it. How do you manage to balance it all?

xx Patricia    Just to prove I do wear clothes.  xxoo


Good Sunday Morning! A lovely start to the day with some Meyer Lemon Iced Tea that I tossed some strawberries into. So good. Like summer in your mouth!

Yesterday I spent the entire day at the pool. Reading, floating and just letting my mind turn off for a bit. I’m so lucky to have people who always have my back and let me have the space I need when I’m not up to being a functional adult.

OU Boy always knows what I need. Friday night he hustled me to the bathing suit store where I bought 2 new suits and a new set of white sheets. We all know how horrid it is trying on swimsuits. But this shop has wonderful lighting and helpful staff and I would have bought one more but the bottoms were white and well, that is never good.

Last night we tried out a new pizza place and it was amazingly good. I had a Greek Salad and toasted Ravioli and my mouth was a very happy place. Then we came home and snuggled on the sofa to watch Atomic Blonde. Honestly it was so boring I mentally checked out halfway through. But I did finish a book!

This morning I cut some lilacs to go in a vase and they smell amazing. And now I shall go and finish at least one more book today.

Be kind to yourself and know that you are not alone, even when you think you are.

xx Patricia