Happy Monday~ GREAT NEWS!!

Happy Monday~ It has been a long weekend here. Cold too. I hope you are all safe and warm.

Friday’s surgery was an all day affair. We finally got back to the OR and of course I asked Dr. White if I could see the tumor. He was very quick to offer to take a picture. Almost gleeful. Aunt Gayle and I posted up it the waiting area right out side the OR with about 50 other people who had not read the memo on NO CHILDREN BEYOND THIS POINT. So I pointed it out to them. For hours I drank tea, listened shamelessly to other people’s conversations and silently judged the ones who had NOT turned their phones off. Well maybe not so silently, but I was stressed.

A few hours in I received a call from Diane in the OR to meet the good doctor in the hall real quick. We were like giddy kids doing something behind our parents back! He had the picture and then took my phone and took one next to a ruler so you all could share in the gory thing he and I decided to call “Da Tumor” in our best Terminator voices.

So for the squeamish or faint of heart, look away!

I sent it to my sister and said, “We had a baby! It’s a boy/girl/mutant!” Actually our Oncologist said he is certain it is not cancerous, although we are waiting on final confirmation from the pathologist. Just a bunch of fat. Which Gayle and I wondered if it had just banded together and formed this long 2 pound ovoid and how could we get our fat to work that out???

The weekend was spent doling out meds. Oxycodone and Tommy don’t really go well together. Lots of throwing up and passing out. Today he is going down to just Motrin and believe it or not he’s going back to work on Wednesday. He has slept a lot and I have read a lot. Plus my mother went home from the hospital on Saturday.

I want to take a minute to say Thank You to all of you who were praying and sending us good thoughts! It means the world to us. After surgery when he could sit up we just clung to each other and prayed and gave thanks and cried and released a ton of weight off of our shoulders.

The up side of this is how seriously he is taking his recovery and drinking SuperFood Smoothies with me and hardly drinking any iced sweet tea. But a lot of herbal tea.

I’m headed to the market as I don’t think he will live on spinach much longer!

Happy Monday and Here is a big hug and kisses for you all!

xx P

Pretty Hearts, Parents and Husbands

As we have been busy making heart garlands and pouring glitter over styrofoam hearts and other crafty things someone let winter in again! I’m not going to say anything about who that may be but someone did say they were sending me some snow!

I personally did not know about this development until 3 a.m. when I received a text saying there would be no school today. Or Library due to weather conditions. I looked out the window and didn’t see anything but apparently it rained last night and the temperature dropped to single digits and the roads were solid sheets of ice. On I-40 there were at least 40 semi trucks lined up on the shoulder of the highway. The sun is acting like it has no idea what is happening, just shining bright as ever but it’s 20 before the wind chill and the wind is vicious.

No mind, Tommy has been getting all his pre-op stuff done today and he had no trouble on the roads to OU. I’m assuming some of the staff did as they still haven’t shown up. Yesterday sister Susan let me know she had Momma in the ER and they were taking her by ambulance to Minot as she was septic. Well I’m gonna not comment on that right now. But we were all terribly worried. Have you seen the weather up there yesterday? Well finally they got her in and settled and began giving her IV antibiotics and fluids and trying to figure out where the infection was. If you don’t know we are a morbid family you will shortly. My Momma is a Charleston girl born and bred. Old South. And of all the folks who could be in the same hospital and in the same room with her is an older black woman from the same place. What are the odds of that? I sent my sister a text. ” May God Help Us All.” I’m still not sure why they brought her to Minot. I think it’s because the nurses at St.Andrew’s just weren’t having it again. She is not a good patient.

Anyway they are all on their own as we get ready for surgery tomorrow. Tommy’s meeting with the anesthesiologist now and that’s the final thing. Hopefully then we can eat.

I wish you all a warm and safe day and weekend! Do a little self-care!

xx P

 

A WINTER WALTZ

Wednesday Love to you all! While we still have no snow, I think I would rather have that than the constant drizzle of freezing rain. Mother Nature in Oklahoma is much like a menopausal woman. Freezing one minute and hot as hell the next. It’s just too much to keep up with.

I love this little winter poem. I love the idea of winter and snow. I love the reality of sandy beaches and sunshine! Are you still in the deep freeze? With this allergy turned bronchitis mess, I’ve been stuck in the house under covers drinking copious amounts of tea, full of herbal goodness. Last night my fever broke just as Tommy’s blood pressure tanked again and he almost passed out again. I wish I had a video of that scene. Him yelling, ” I’m going to throw up!” And me running for a bucket and making a Heisman worthy jump over the coffee table to land with my arm outstretched with the bucket which barely made it under his mouth in time.

I was worried about him all night. Slept with my hand on his chest to make sure he was breathing. Finally he grabbed my hand and told me he was okay now. This morning I told him if he was going to keep trying to faint and barf I was going to rearrange the furniture so none of my things would get broken. The poor man was just barfing away while I had my fingers in my ears humming loudly.

Today I feel better. I’m coughing, but it’s a good cough and I don’t feel like crawling into a hole and dying. Which is really good since tomorrow is the big day for pre-op work and then surgery on Friday. Keep those prayers coming!

My nephew’s long time girlfriend was killed in a car accident yesterday in Pass Christian, Mississippi so we are doubling down on the prayer. He is such a sweet boy, who isn’t really a boy anymore, but he will always be the baby.

Have a great day. Be Kind. Drink Tea.

xx P

Hello February! Chapter Two

It is a bit late in the day for me. Not feeling up to snuff today. Sipping on some Sugar Plum Fairy pink tea, welcoming in February. While it says rain and clouds on the weather app, the glaring sun and warm temperatures are saying something else. I know because the sprinkler system doesn’t come on unless it’s over 54 degrees and it came on today.

So everyone we know has this ‘flu’ thingy. And this morning I woke up with a sore throat and a headache along with a sensitive tummy. So I made some Turmeric Tea and filled the bath with Lavender Epsom Salts and proceeded to try to exorcise whatever demon has taken up residence in my body. Said body was highly offended at the intrusion of a germ. I mean for cripe’s sake, all I eat are fruits and vegetables and good for you stuff. But tiny terrorists at the school don’t care. They freely spread their little germs to all who enter the Kindergarten domain.

We are a firm go for next Friday, with pre-op on Thursday. I am a bit peeved that the patient told his aunt she could come and sit with me during the surgery. More than a bit. I was planning on finishing up the new Citizenship Study Guide and now I will have to make small talk. I despise small talk.

I am now off to go moan and groan to my sister. I’m quite sure she will be sympathetic as she is living it up at the beach! Love you MJ!

Have a great week-end and please stay warm all of you in the polar vortex. Read a book or watch a movie, just do some self-care and stay warm!

xx P

BEST NEWS EVER!

I am so happy to be here this Wednesday! I had no idea it was so late in the afternoon. I was deep into one of Paula Brackston’s slip time tales and lost all track of time.

We had a rough few days. Tommy’s BP bottomed out and he crashed. Like into the wall and my knitting basket and then proceeded to throw up on the floor. It’s dark and I can’t see that well so I just stuck a can under his mouth and put a wet cloth on his head. Right before he passed out he said he was going to throw up and I knew from my own experiences that his blood pressure had gone way down too fast. Been there.

Monday we were scared of the visit to the cancer center and his surgeon. Well at the end of the day, NO. CANCER. And yesterday he met with his GP and she brought in a pharmacist to talk about which meds were causing issues and which ones he could drop. His blood work was perfect as usual and he is continuing to lose weight and stay away from the gallon of sweet tea. He even drank my SuperFoods Smoothie yesterday. Because his doctor told him to do what I do!! Win!

We have a notion that people change for 2 reasons. Fear or Recognition. And he has had both. He doesn’t want to stroke out and he’s looking pretty hot. So we celebrated by finishing The Crown! So good news all around. Except for my two sons and my mother and sister who are up there on the North Dakota/Canada border where it is -60! I feel for y’all, I really do. So sending warm thoughts to all of you in the frozen tundra areas!

Thank you all for the prayers and love! We are truly Thankful, Grateful and Blessed and reading your blogs has kept me sane and out of my own head. Isn’t it amazing how people can touch your life so intimately and yet you’ve never met them in the “real” world?

xx P

 

THANKFUL, GRATEFUL, AND TIRED!

Well we made it. Friday morning Tommy’s BP had been acceptable for 10 straight hours. Really good. Like normal people. 124 over 78! We finally found the right cocktail of meds. And I want to thank all of the nurses, especially Debbie at OU. Part of the anxiety and stress is the not knowing. And this beautiful woman shut the door and sat down and explained everything and wrote it down. They released him right after lunch and we headed to the pharmacy and got his new meds and then home for a nap in his own bed and a nice soak in the tub.

He was determined to go to Corbin’s first dance. And we made it. I was working the photo booth and he helped by corralling the props and herding the kids into a somewhat straight line.

The gym looked amazing, the DJ was really good, but the hottest ticket in the gym was the photo booth.

Those three little munchkins are best friends. Last year they were all the same height but as you can see Corbin had a growth spurt, but then we are all tall Viking people here. They danced their hearts out and took tons of pictures together and ate a lot of cookies but when it came time to go, little Alex did not want to take off her party shoes and go to her Grandmother’s house. She started to cry and the boys jumped right in to hug her and console her and offer for her to come with them. On the way out, Corbin said, ” Grandma, Emerson and me are cousins now.”  Really? ” Well then it’s okay if he calls me his Grandma too, then?” Uh, no.

I sent his dad a the above picture as he was home with Charli Ava and he wrote back, Good Lord Mom, he looks like a little Amish boy! Actually the boys had to have matching outfits, which were located finally at H & M. Corbin refused to wear the bow tie or boutonniere, as they felt funny on his skin.

We slept like the dead last night and woke up this morning feeling like we had the worst hangover ever! We didn’t realize how tightly we were wound up and I guess we just crashed finally. But everyone is doing well. Monday we meet with the surgeon at the Cancer Center and we’ll go from there. But I had to share Corbin’s first dance with y’all and thank you for all of your thoughts and love and prayers. You are all amazing!

xx P

CALMING DOWN WITH SOME LAVENDER TEA

Good Thursday morning! It’s been a very busy week. OU Boy is actually in OUMED at the moment. Yesterday morning his blood pressure was in high stroke range and he was sent to the hospital and was admitted.

It was a long day of tests and switching up blood pressure meds orally and through the IV. They didn’t do it the slow way either so when it crashed so did he. After scans of his entire body and a check on his aorta and kidney function we are wiped out. This morning his pressure was 158 over 98 and that is as low as it has ever been. But then he tried to stand up and boom! Massive headache, dizzy and throwing up.

I’m trying to wrap things up at home right now and find his pajamas.And stuff my bag with tea. They didn’t offer anything but black and I needed the calm of the lavender.  It may be a bit before I’m back on here though. They can’t do the tumor surgery until his BP is stable. I am not the best in hospitals. They did give us a lovely gift basket with food and drinks and snacks so I ate almonds yesterday. Tommy couldn’t eat. Then we were wondering does everyone get a gift basket? No. They don’t. We are just nice people and are patient with the nurses, who really do everything.

Since he was unconscious and his legs were spread out I used him as a desk and got work done. The nurses offered to bring me a desk but this way I can watch him and work. Now it’s back to the hospital. Prayers, love and good thoughts are appreciated!

xx P

KINDNESS, IT’S SO GANGSTER!

It’s Monday! Some Mellow Yellow here today. Warm Turmeric Tea and all is right with the world. Except this wind. It’s one of those days when I need rocks in my pockets or I’ll end up in Missouri. But the fat yellow sun is shining and of course I had a thought about that.

They say that Chicago is the windiest place, but I disagree. I’ve been to Chicago many times and I’ve seen some wicked wind, but here in Oklahoma its unrelenting. I hate it. Your hair is in your face sticking to your lip gloss. Your grocery cart goes flying across the lot. It’s even worse if you live out at the farm. Dust will always be in your house.

But no matter, that big old sun is still shining! High in the sky doing its job not caring what the other elements are doing. I’m so trying to take that attitude. All day and night we hear of the shutdown and the utter chaos in our part of the world and we can not let that affect our job! Our job is to lift the broken, love the unloveable, care for the sick and poor and keep on shining. Being kind isn’t the same as agreeing with someone. You don’t have to agree to be kind. And if you just toss that stuff all over then at the end of the day you can be proud of yourself and not have to go take a shower to wash off the ugly.

We went to the market this morning. Tommy was not happy but he took a nap and is okay now. Nothing but good and healthy food in the house. I think he’s planning a secret mission to The Garage ( our fave burger joint) as soon as I head for the office! But so far he’s done well. He’s drinking Turmeric Tea and had a cup of English Breakfast this morning. He even ate the salmon patties I made last night. He has never eaten salmon!!

Have yourself a good day and evening. And remember sometimes being kind just means keeping our mouths shut.

xx P

The Pity Train Has Left The Station

Happy Sunday! Enjoying a nice cup of Orange Spice tea today. No famous seller, just a blend anyone can make. The sun is shining, but it’s still quite chilly out there. I still don’t know where that major snow storm is. I’m beginning to think that weather guy may also be a negative thinker.

Are you? I am not. But I live with one and it’s the worst thing in the world. I despise negativity. And I’m way past the days of struggling to drag people into Happy Town. You know the way, just go. Today I have been on the offensive to help get rid of that and clarify my position. Me along with my trusted Sharpie have been going around writing on things. Like that gallon sweet tea pitcher, which now says,” NO! DO YOU WANT TO DIE? GYST!” Yep, it’s time to take drastic action. Anything processed or has sugar or flour is now in the garbage. Oh, GYST is just Get.Your.Shit.Together. It’s my mantra for the year.

So for all of you family members who love to wallow in your illnesses and yet do nothing constructive about them….STFU. Stop trying infect the rest of us with your moaning and groaning while you are still shoving poison in your mouth or smoking it or whatever you are doing and know 100 percent you should not.

Lol #funnymovingonquotes

Start channelling your inner Orange. The color of happiness and liberation from pitifulness (probably not a word, yet appropriate). Who can’t muster up a smile when you smell a freshly peeled orange? It’s a mindset. A decision you make every morning. Today is going to be a good day. And then you make it one. We all have problems. It’s how you deal with them that sets us apart. So many of us on here struggle with anxiety, depression and stress. But we deal with it. We WANT to be well and we really don’t want to be dragged into someone else’s negativity and whining. You hold the key to your own health and well-being. YOU. If you don’t like where you are with your health, your weight, or your attitude, well, guess what? YOU are the only one who can change it.T

That is all. Be Kind and Take Care of YOU!

xx P

So Thankful For Friday!

Friday is here and again a gorgeous and sunny 60 degree day! Don’t know where all that snow is. I’ve been walking outside barefoot and soaking up the sun. It’s amazing what a good sunny day will do for your mental health. Reminds me of a good cup of tea.

I’m not sure what got into me today. I was up early and proceeded to scrub every inch of my house and cupboards. I decided it was time to take all of my tea out and see what I needed and what I did not. The entire time I’m thinking, I may have a problem here. I counted 64 tins/boxes. I had to start stacking them behind each other. So no more tea for a bit, although I did just use the last Tazo Zen. Now it’s all neat and ready for an invasion of thirsty tea slugging Pirates.

I may have a problem

Let’s see how long it stays this neat. I cleaned out the dishwasher, the microwave, did the floors, the bath and then popped over to the neighbor’s house for some good Chai and a chat. And if that wasn’t enough the new Southern Living was in the mail, so it’s a good day so far.

I spent an hour on the phone with my sister who leaves for Miami tomorrow and then on to Curacao for the winter. In April we are going home to Mississippi to see family and eat a lot of good food.

Tommy had his blood pressure meds changed and now has to drink tons of water a day. Doctor’s orders. No more sweet tea or soda. You would have thought they were going to neuter him or something the way he carried on. He drank one glass of water and declared that was the first time he had ever drank a whole glass. Ye Gods, Man! So he’s taking his health seriously and I am so thankful for that. I mean, I married a younger man so he could eventually take care of me and that has NOT worked out. One step at a time he will get there.

Enjoy your Friday! Grace and Frankie returns tonight on Netflix so I’m a happy camper.

xx P