LIFE, DEATH and CHEESECAKE

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Tuesday Morning and I am sipping a new Decaf Espresso Chai. I needed caffeine. I’m holding my eyes open with sheer willpower!

We have been so busy with the kids and school things and sports that on Sunday we had to just take a breath. Charli has third grade testing this month and it began today. So we did practice tests and a lot of math and tears and reading and sighs…oh the drama of being 8 years old!

Last night Aunt Gayle saved us all by taking us to The Cheesecake Factory so we didn’t have to cook and the kids could get to bed early and be well rested for today.

Now Charli Ava is our sweets addict. As you can see she’s watching Aunt Gayle like a hawk waiting for her bites!  No one wanted to share this Red Velvet Cheesecake and since it’s been years since I had eaten cheesecake and I was feeling very smug for having a Beet Salad for dinner, I ordered this. And ate a large chunk!

Their parents should be home tonight. I told the kids that if they didn’t go home tonight I was dropping them at the Fire Department. I’m only half kidding here. They are always a joy to have. Except for Saturday when Corbin decided to color with a permanent marker. Thin sheets mean bleed through. On to my coffee table. I was so stressed I just sat down and sobbed. Corbin came in and said, “Don’t cry Gran, I did it. I’m sorry and I love you so please don’t cry.” Heart melts….. And then the me in him comes out when he tries ” Let’s just cover it up with a book and PaPa won’t notice.”

All in all it’s been a successful 7 days. Everyone is alive. No one has any owies except for growing pains at night. Still haven’t figured out how to help with that. We tried a heating pad last night and Charli said it helped a lot. Any Ideas out there??

Also it helps if you have a split of Prosecco after dinner! Aquaman looked even better with a glass of that!

On a different topic, our elderly neighbor Bert who the kids love, was struck and killed by a car on his morning walk yesterday. Right outside the kid’s bedroom window. Bert served in the Vietnam War, had severe head trauma and had been run over before and I was very upset at the unfairness of it. He deserved a peaceful passing and we will miss him terribly. Rest soft, Bert.

 

Going to take a nap. Have a good Tuesday. It should be in the 90’s here today.

xxP

 

AT THIS POINT WE ARE REALLY JUST WINGING IT!

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Oh the many shades of yellow this time of year! As we were driving to multiple baseball practices yesterday evening we saw so many beautiful flowers. One home was surrounded by white tulips. It was a very bold choice but it worked very well.

I am basically just mainlining Chai today. You know the saying, ” Man plans and God laughs”….yep. I was prepared for anything. Except a last-minute field change for Charli Ava. We were dropped off and the boys headed for the Boathouse District for Corbin’s practice. Long story short, my girl got on base every time she hit and got stuck on second flirting with a boy on second and the little boy on first just ran around her. It was funny as heck. The team is made up of first timers and they all admitted to being nervous and scared. Having coached this age before I explained how things worked. Like what a bag is or a base. Somehow I’m now the Team Mom and will have snack duty for the rest of Spring.

Tommy picked us up and we all went to get Corbin. His Uncle was there with his little one. We arrive, James and Corbin have been horsing around and Corbin slid into a base and scraped his knee so now it’s blowing like crazy out and cold, Corbin is declaring his imminent demise while shoving muffin in his face and bleeding on my seats. Luckily we had a quick dinner before we left for the fields. Corbin couldn’t take a bath because he was dying and no one cared and if he got in the tub he would for sure die. Y’all know we are a dramatic bunch of Scots/Irish/Norwegian folks. We can spin a yarn, die on a daily basis and be stubborn as hell. So we chose not to fight this battle. Everyone was in bed on time and asleep soon after. Then we just sat there and stared at the blank television. Wondering if my Momma had wine. And is it okay to sleep in your clothes?

Around midnight or so we had a vicious storm move through. Big thunder and lightning which ended with Tommy sleeping in Corbins room until the storm passed. The only one who was an adult was Charli. She gets up as soon as the alarm goes off, makes her bed, hits up the bathroom rituals and eats breakfast she made herself. We had to re-bandage the scraped knee and get our Picture Day clothes on. By the time they were all out the door with lunches and backpacks I was understanding why my mother was always in a bad mood. Tommy just looked at me and said, “Thank you for not getting knocked up!”. My pleasure dude.

Corbin suggested that he call in sick on Friday because we needed to rest. I’m not one bit ashamed of at least thinking about it. But no activities tonight so it should be calmer. Should.

To all of you moms and dads out there getting your kids to school and practices on time…I salute you!  To the mom at practice who agreed it is okay to Uber them, I have wine now. Come over.

xx P

THE HISTORIC ROYAL PALACES COLLECTION

Wednesday already? Where did the time go? Saturday I was so happy to see this lovely red box from Harney and Sons! I knew it meant a Royal Palaces tea tin. I already have some others and these were the last two.

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The Green Tea with Coconut, Ginger and Vanilla and Lemongrass. The aroma is very soft. This is a delicate tea. I steeped it for 3 minutes in not quite boiling water. It tasted smooth and bright with that zing of ginger left on the back of your tongue. There is the brightness of the green tea and the surprise of coconut and they all come together to make a perfect tea for anytime. I’ve had it twice hot and I made a chilled one as well and it was delicious.

Well Mike and Jodi are on a plane headed to D.C.  I may have (she did) have a major panic attack yesterday talking to Mike. I’m sobbing about him driving a bus that far and he pops in with You should be worried about the plane. Well that was it. I cried this morning when they dropped off an entire car load of things for the kids. Ballet, hip hop, t-ball, coach pitch, school picture clothes and uniforms. They already have double of everything here.

Yesterday we were doing prep work and I asked Tommy to make the mini-muffins. He did not do it correctly (her way) and I tossed them in the trash. This morning so far I’ve made 4 dozen blueberry muffins and 4 dozen chocolate chip muffins. 2 dozen Brownie Bites, a Red Velvet Cake and a sauce for pasta tonight. Lunches are planned out and snacks are grab and go. Tonight we have practice at 5 p.m. for Charli Ava and I am so OCD about being prepared. Although Corbin has already asked if he could just not go to school and stay with me. Now I have 2 and a half hours to wash my hair, Lay out clothes and read a book.

Hopefully I will be alive tomorrow. Or drunk. Who knows?

xx P

The Anxiety Fairy Brought Reinforcements!

Tuesday! I barely made it through Monday. It was touch and go for a long time! An entire full-blown anxiety attack and panic attack.  On those days I think hard about moving to a convent and taking a vow of silence.

To re-cap, Friday night was Cultural Arts Night at school. Tommy and I were volunteering in the Screen Printing Room with artist Sarah Kickingbird. Jodi was the door keeper and I left Tommy with Sarah and took Corbin to see the performance by the OKC Ballet. This was the one and only time there was complete silence the entire night. The kids were in awe of the storytelling done by this talented duo.

Our Fiber Art artist was none other than Jamie Lopp (@midwestmigrant) aka Aunt Jamie. We made key chains. I did not. I am smart. The little boy who had it down from knot one kept “helping” me until I tied my own final knot. That kid is going far in leadership and I had someone else do my work. Win.  Fred gave us a quick Cartoon Drawing lesson. Corbins was really good. We went to try out some instruments the OKC Philharmonic brought but as soon as a little boy tried a violin Corbin was out. We gelli painted instead. Then we went home and died. Staring at the wall.

Saturday night was a sleepover and Sunday was list day. Jodi and Mike are flying to D,C, to pick up this bad boy

The plan is to drive it back and gut the inside and live in the bus while they build a house on their land. I have been locked in a fight with the Anxiety Fairy over this. No one has ever driven a bus before! I am stressed. Then Mike calls and says don’t worry about the bus, worry about the airplane! The Anxiety Fairy called in reinforcements and I shut down.

We have lists of ball practices and games, lunches ready to pack and breakfasts in the freezer. I reminded Corbin Thursday is picture day and asked if he wanted to bring a comb for his hair or should I come up and do it? He looked at me like I had two heads and said, ” No. No. If this is how school is going to be I’m going back to Pre-K!” apparently combing his hair at school is a deal breaker.

So the postman brought bunches of packages to my door this weekend~ My new white comforter, lots of teas and this cute seahorse infuser that I found at The Spice and Tea Exchange . More tomorrow on all the new teas~

Wish us luck. I keep asking Mike and Jodi if they are coming back. Don’t leave me here with these tiny terrorists. Dear Sweet Baby Jesus please.

xx P

Dying Easter Eggs With Tea and Those Damn Fairies!

Good Morning!  Doing some experimenting with tea dyed eggs today. I really love the softness of the colors. I opened one of the eggs I used black tea on and inside the white was a lovely marbling that I adored. Also the egg was tasty. Quality control. Tough job.

The Anxiety Fairy brought her ugly sister The Doubt Fairy and parked their baggage all over my poor brain. We have been through a lot this past year and just as I was evening out all the wires got crossed. I found myself looking for a fight. I blocked a sister on social media. I sent Tommy to work on his day off. It was awful.

So I sat down with The Get Your Shit Together Fairy and she told me to talk to Tommy. Bounce concerns off him and get his input. Now I try never to bounce anything off Tommy. Because he is a guy and they usually want to ‘fix’ it instead of just listening and offering suggestions. So I wrote it all down and called him home and told him my head was in chaos and therefore my life was in chaos.

He pointed out that I have a hard time saying no and maybe a trip to the antique mall would help calm me down and then maybe to the library to smell books.  I found the perfect planner and program to keep track of all my book reviews. In the end I had a new kitchen table, some fine books, a baby pie and the two end tables we had been looking for to go in the workout/reading room. Then he spent the rest of the night helping me get everything organized in my planner. I love him.

He even tried Yoga for a hot minute. Now that my house and my business are in order the two hoochie fairies in my head slunk out the door. I am so grateful to have someone who loves me so much that he takes the psycho me along with the kind me.

Since my son and his wife are flying to D.C. the first week of April to pick up a school bus and drive it back, Corbin and Charli Ava will be with us. That means getting up earlier and making breakfasts and lunches. And one of those days is picture day for Corbin, who will try to sneak his Nike outfit in his book bag. So my comb and hairspray will be at school that day. Normally they wear uniforms so on a non uniform day he wants to show off his new outfit. Not happening.

Miss Charli Ava is staying over Friday night so she can be with me at 2 book signings on Saturday. One in Edmond and one in Norman. Opposite ends of I-35, but we’ll make it work. In the meantime I’m just not watching news anymore. I am waiting for Queen Elizabeth to send in the troops as it is glaringly obivous we can not govern ourselves. We need a do-over bad!

Have a good Wednesday and thanks for listening to me. It really does help knowing you aren’t alone!

xx P

 

Friday Advice From The Flamingo

It’s Friday! Week one of Spring Break is over. Tomorrow baseball season begins. Tomorrow is when they get their gear and have a giant party on the lawn. I will be home baking bread and cookies and muffins. Everyone has disappeared. No, there is 1 lonely cookie in the cookie jar.

The first couple of days Thing One and Thing Two went to Dallas to spend some time with Grandpa Bob so there was a 24 hour period where we had to calm down and go to bed at a decent hour. Different rules and all. So yesterday Thing One was in rare form. He ran all day. Everywhere. He refused to get dressed in anything but his Black Panther slippers, a Spiderman shirt and a pair of shorts. And yes, I took him shopping in this outfit. There are battles that are not worth fighting. And as soon as we got home he stripped and was happy. The rest of us were not so we plopped him into a bubble bath and gave him some toys and closed the door.

This morning he was dressed and wanted Leprechaun cereal. Lucky Charms. I know they are going through a growth spurt, but man can they eat! They are like cows, grazing all day, pouring way too much tea in the cup and requesting a bread sandwich. Yes, that is 2 pieces of bread. TaDa!

He was also told not to pick on his sister….yeah that lasted 10 minutes. Finally I had them both on the sofa snuggled in watching the last 2 chapters of Stranger Things 2. Then he just punched her. I told him I was going to have to tell his Daddy that because he had specifically told him not to do that. His reply? “Oh, Granma, just don’t bring it up.””:I’m sorry, what?”  “Just lie.”  “No, sorry I’m not lying to your father.” “Do you not know how?” God save us all!  

Then my sister called and they were her problem. They grilled her on breakfast food.

Now I’m going to soak in a hot bubble bath and remember how to be an adult.

xx P

I Baked. I Shopped. I am Awesome!!

Good Morning! Tuesday and it started raining last night and was still sprinkling this morning. The thunder show is supposed to begin in a couple of hours. I don’t care I have a lifetime supply of tea, books, and flowers. And today I am in love with these pink beauties! And the white tulips are lovely too. The main (only) reason I go to Whole Foods is to get flowers. Or sometimes just sit and have a tea and smell them.

Spring Break started yesterday. Sunday night we went and shopped for groceries and kid food. This time I actually made a 2 week menu and a list of ingredients. I am now the refrigerator Nazi. No one is taking anything out of there without asking me!

So far….. I have baked dozens of tiny blueberry muffins and 6 in every small snack bag (portion control), 6 dozen Amish Almond Sugar Cookies, also portioned out as well as several loaves of GF bread.  Now they know they can just grab a tiny snack bag and I don’t have to get up and play the “What do you want?” game.

Pretty bread. Some of the cookies stayed in the jar, most are in the freezer.

Nothing like taking a break for a nice cup of Paris Tea and Almond Tea Cakes! I do all kinds of things with my tea tins. This is one.

Now I’m going to go for a run before the rain comes back! Stay Safe!

xx P

ACTUALLY I CAN AND I DID!

Tomorrow is Friday and I could not be happier! Like a seagull with a french fry happy! I just want this week over. As I am sitting here gazing out my window and sipping this lovely Jasmine Green Tea that a lovely lady brought back from Taiwan. It’s so smooth and delicate and the leaves themselves are beautiful.

This week I said NO. After a long couple of weeks since Tommy has slipped on the ice and landed on his surgery side. No stitches were broken but he is banged up and has a lot of water on his knee which they will drain Monday. I was having major anxiety over a few things and I started losing weight again. Tommy kept telling me to just say no, just tell the truth. That I do not want to be in that big of a crowd. I had reasons lined up why I couldn’t say no, but then he took one of the issues and handled it himself and I realized, well, yes, actually, I can say no. So I did. And the world did not fall apart. No one died. No one hated me. I finally mattered enough to myself to put my foot down. It felt good.

Spring Break starts next week so I am filling the craft boxes and getting the tennis rackets out for the kids. Yesterday it was so gorgeous out that I washed all of my windows and screens, inside and out. Of course than I slid in the soapy water and almost ended up on my tush. But there is something so wonderful about throwing open the windows and letting the fresh air and sunshine flood the house. The fairies were very happy except for that anxiety fairy and we all know she’s just a Debbie Downer!

Enjoy your day and I hope you take time for yourself and know that You Matter! And yes, you can say NO.

xxP

Keep Your Face Toward The Sun!

Thursday is almost gone and I haven’t heard from the PCH folks yet. I’m seriously annoyed too. My hair is done, my nails are done, even my toes, and I’m waiting….

Sipping on a nice Chamomile Tea to calm my nerves and my tummy. I think I caught a stomach bug and I’m trying to keep it soothed. It has been days since this cold front moved in. No snow or precipitation, just slick spots on the roads because we have been below freezing most of the week. But school is closed! A branch falls off a tree and school is closed!

I may not be in the best mood. I think it takes a bit of time to unwind yourself from all of the tension one has during a  health crisis. Of course it hasn’t helped that Tommy slipped on the ice and is now black and blue on the side he just had surgery on.

My partner in crime and I have decided on a trip to an island with great snorkeling and lots of diamonds and shopping. Just the two of us. So she made me feel better today. I’m just channeling yellow today. Sunshine! That feeling of the sun on your face that means Spring has arrived.  We shall rent a VW Bug and cruise the beach and soak up all of that liquid gold.

And now  I shall go back to bed with my tea and have an adventure in a book!

Be Safe. Be Warm. Stay Wild!

xxP

Never Underestimate The Importance of the Little Things!

I’m running very late today. But it has been a day! Bright and sunny and no sign of the weather that had schools closed yesterday and even the library closed and the coffee shop. I swear we got maybe 100 flakes of snow/sleet. I don’t understand it at all.

It’s been a very busy week for us. I met with my therapist Monday morning and I unloaded all of my worries on her. Tommy’s dressing came off and I got to see the incision. It was much longer than I thought. 7 inches. And Dr. White said he needed every one of those inches to get that tumor out. But it looks good.

We’ve been doing soft and lazy stuff. Drinking tea, napping, watching Ender’s Game and just letting go of all of the tension from the pre-surgery results. Which we got! No Cancer! Laying around reading and rubbing each other’s feet. Just doing a lot of self-love. The kids spent the night on Friday night. We watched Venom again and just hung out. Corbin was most upset that he didn’t get a chocolate heart, but a chocolate shake fixed that.

He had his dance and he and Emma were voted King and Queen. Kindergarten is a lot different from when I was there! Anyway he looked adorable in his crown and royal robe. This Friday is Talent Show Night. I shudder to think what will happen, but I made cookies.

I don’t know if it was Tommy’s nether regions returning from numbness, saving the world from being destroyed and giving us some stress relief or if I had a head injury but today I woke up and by afternoon tea time I had made a cake for his birthday tomorrow ( the big 40), I made 2 of my Lemon Lust Loaves and lots of dark chocolate chip cookies, plus I have a pork roast in the slow cooker. Don’t get used to it.

So I’m having some nice Harney & Sons Blue and Yellow tea with a slice of Lemon Lust Loaf!

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Along with clean sheet day, this is just heavenly!

xx P