DOWN THE BUNNY TRAIL…AND PIE!

Good Friday! I’m wishing I was closer to my Momma this time of year so I could have her coconut cake. My momma is a world-class baker and cake decorator.  Between her coconut cake and her pound cakes we should all be morbidly obese by now.

The one thing we both loved was those Cream Cheese Mints that melt in your mouth and contain 2 pounds of powdered sugar! Yesterday I spent most of the day stirring and then rolling some into tiny egg shapes and the rest the round flat only I used a wax seal with my initials and made them all fancy. I’m mailing them to her.

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Since it is Strawberry Season I had a fridge full of berries and Tommy said he had never heard of Strawberry Pie from Shoney’s!  Oh the horror! Luckily we know this one by heart so by the time he got here there was a counter full of drying mints, and a chilled strawberry pie with homemade whipped cream. It was perfect. Even the crust was British Baking Show quality. Which is rare for me.

I wish you all a lovely Easter and a grand weekend.  I’ll be reading and finishing some projects and am trying to stay off the internet so I don’t lose my mind with all the politics!

xx P

 

Dying Easter Eggs With Tea and Those Damn Fairies!

Good Morning!  Doing some experimenting with tea dyed eggs today. I really love the softness of the colors. I opened one of the eggs I used black tea on and inside the white was a lovely marbling that I adored. Also the egg was tasty. Quality control. Tough job.

The Anxiety Fairy brought her ugly sister The Doubt Fairy and parked their baggage all over my poor brain. We have been through a lot this past year and just as I was evening out all the wires got crossed. I found myself looking for a fight. I blocked a sister on social media. I sent Tommy to work on his day off. It was awful.

So I sat down with The Get Your Shit Together Fairy and she told me to talk to Tommy. Bounce concerns off him and get his input. Now I try never to bounce anything off Tommy. Because he is a guy and they usually want to ‘fix’ it instead of just listening and offering suggestions. So I wrote it all down and called him home and told him my head was in chaos and therefore my life was in chaos.

He pointed out that I have a hard time saying no and maybe a trip to the antique mall would help calm me down and then maybe to the library to smell books.  I found the perfect planner and program to keep track of all my book reviews. In the end I had a new kitchen table, some fine books, a baby pie and the two end tables we had been looking for to go in the workout/reading room. Then he spent the rest of the night helping me get everything organized in my planner. I love him.

He even tried Yoga for a hot minute. Now that my house and my business are in order the two hoochie fairies in my head slunk out the door. I am so grateful to have someone who loves me so much that he takes the psycho me along with the kind me.

Since my son and his wife are flying to D.C. the first week of April to pick up a school bus and drive it back, Corbin and Charli Ava will be with us. That means getting up earlier and making breakfasts and lunches. And one of those days is picture day for Corbin, who will try to sneak his Nike outfit in his book bag. So my comb and hairspray will be at school that day. Normally they wear uniforms so on a non uniform day he wants to show off his new outfit. Not happening.

Miss Charli Ava is staying over Friday night so she can be with me at 2 book signings on Saturday. One in Edmond and one in Norman. Opposite ends of I-35, but we’ll make it work. In the meantime I’m just not watching news anymore. I am waiting for Queen Elizabeth to send in the troops as it is glaringly obivous we can not govern ourselves. We need a do-over bad!

Have a good Wednesday and thanks for listening to me. It really does help knowing you aren’t alone!

xx P

 

ACTUALLY I CAN AND I DID!

Tomorrow is Friday and I could not be happier! Like a seagull with a french fry happy! I just want this week over. As I am sitting here gazing out my window and sipping this lovely Jasmine Green Tea that a lovely lady brought back from Taiwan. It’s so smooth and delicate and the leaves themselves are beautiful.

This week I said NO. After a long couple of weeks since Tommy has slipped on the ice and landed on his surgery side. No stitches were broken but he is banged up and has a lot of water on his knee which they will drain Monday. I was having major anxiety over a few things and I started losing weight again. Tommy kept telling me to just say no, just tell the truth. That I do not want to be in that big of a crowd. I had reasons lined up why I couldn’t say no, but then he took one of the issues and handled it himself and I realized, well, yes, actually, I can say no. So I did. And the world did not fall apart. No one died. No one hated me. I finally mattered enough to myself to put my foot down. It felt good.

Spring Break starts next week so I am filling the craft boxes and getting the tennis rackets out for the kids. Yesterday it was so gorgeous out that I washed all of my windows and screens, inside and out. Of course than I slid in the soapy water and almost ended up on my tush. But there is something so wonderful about throwing open the windows and letting the fresh air and sunshine flood the house. The fairies were very happy except for that anxiety fairy and we all know she’s just a Debbie Downer!

Enjoy your day and I hope you take time for yourself and know that You Matter! And yes, you can say NO.

xxP

BE SAFE. BE WARM. BE KIND.

Oh Winter…you try my patience like a two-year old in Target! This morning it was in the 30’s and now there are notices all over about the severe weather and deathly cold temperatures coming between now and Monday. That narrows it down.

It is very odd to be so flipping cold with the sun just shining away. I’m thinking Mother Nature is going through menopause. I’m also glad I have an unlimited supply of books and tea! So while the world goes to hell in a hand basket, I’m going to be over here under the covers reading a wickedly evil thriller! And some nice Gingerbread Tea from Celestial Seasonings. It is so good!

I should be doing laundry but I’m not. I just don’t want to and I’m trying to be kinder to myself and not force myself to do things just because. Kindness is a difficult thing for some people. It’s not some random act, it’s a lifestyle. Holding a door for someone coming in from the cold, smiling at that mom in Target with the tantrum throwing toddler, listening to the same story over and over from someone in the living center, but if consistently done, it will change lives.

Be Safe. Be Warm. Be Kind!

Happy Monday~ GREAT NEWS!!

Happy Monday~ It has been a long weekend here. Cold too. I hope you are all safe and warm.

Friday’s surgery was an all day affair. We finally got back to the OR and of course I asked Dr. White if I could see the tumor. He was very quick to offer to take a picture. Almost gleeful. Aunt Gayle and I posted up it the waiting area right out side the OR with about 50 other people who had not read the memo on NO CHILDREN BEYOND THIS POINT. So I pointed it out to them. For hours I drank tea, listened shamelessly to other people’s conversations and silently judged the ones who had NOT turned their phones off. Well maybe not so silently, but I was stressed.

A few hours in I received a call from Diane in the OR to meet the good doctor in the hall real quick. We were like giddy kids doing something behind our parents back! He had the picture and then took my phone and took one next to a ruler so you all could share in the gory thing he and I decided to call “Da Tumor” in our best Terminator voices.

So for the squeamish or faint of heart, look away!

I sent it to my sister and said, “We had a baby! It’s a boy/girl/mutant!” Actually our Oncologist said he is certain it is not cancerous, although we are waiting on final confirmation from the pathologist. Just a bunch of fat. Which Gayle and I wondered if it had just banded together and formed this long 2 pound ovoid and how could we get our fat to work that out???

The weekend was spent doling out meds. Oxycodone and Tommy don’t really go well together. Lots of throwing up and passing out. Today he is going down to just Motrin and believe it or not he’s going back to work on Wednesday. He has slept a lot and I have read a lot. Plus my mother went home from the hospital on Saturday.

I want to take a minute to say Thank You to all of you who were praying and sending us good thoughts! It means the world to us. After surgery when he could sit up we just clung to each other and prayed and gave thanks and cried and released a ton of weight off of our shoulders.

The up side of this is how seriously he is taking his recovery and drinking SuperFood Smoothies with me and hardly drinking any iced sweet tea. But a lot of herbal tea.

I’m headed to the market as I don’t think he will live on spinach much longer!

Happy Monday and Here is a big hug and kisses for you all!

xx P

A WINTER WALTZ

Wednesday Love to you all! While we still have no snow, I think I would rather have that than the constant drizzle of freezing rain. Mother Nature in Oklahoma is much like a menopausal woman. Freezing one minute and hot as hell the next. It’s just too much to keep up with.

I love this little winter poem. I love the idea of winter and snow. I love the reality of sandy beaches and sunshine! Are you still in the deep freeze? With this allergy turned bronchitis mess, I’ve been stuck in the house under covers drinking copious amounts of tea, full of herbal goodness. Last night my fever broke just as Tommy’s blood pressure tanked again and he almost passed out again. I wish I had a video of that scene. Him yelling, ” I’m going to throw up!” And me running for a bucket and making a Heisman worthy jump over the coffee table to land with my arm outstretched with the bucket which barely made it under his mouth in time.

I was worried about him all night. Slept with my hand on his chest to make sure he was breathing. Finally he grabbed my hand and told me he was okay now. This morning I told him if he was going to keep trying to faint and barf I was going to rearrange the furniture so none of my things would get broken. The poor man was just barfing away while I had my fingers in my ears humming loudly.

Today I feel better. I’m coughing, but it’s a good cough and I don’t feel like crawling into a hole and dying. Which is really good since tomorrow is the big day for pre-op work and then surgery on Friday. Keep those prayers coming!

My nephew’s long time girlfriend was killed in a car accident yesterday in Pass Christian, Mississippi so we are doubling down on the prayer. He is such a sweet boy, who isn’t really a boy anymore, but he will always be the baby.

Have a great day. Be Kind. Drink Tea.

xx P

FROSTY MORNINGS AND TOASTY MUGS!

BRRRR!!! I am not even going to start whining about how cold it is. 47 degrees but it’s a dry cold. WTF? I don’t know, but I feel horrible complaining when my mother is up to her tiny little neck in snow and my sons are in the frozen tundra of -60. Doesn’t mean I won’t complain, but I am aware how lucky we are to have been spared this polar vortex.

We are getting our ducks in a row for surgery next Friday. Thank you for all the well wishes. I think we are getting everything under control. This morning Tommy told me I could toss that pitcher of sweet tea he made last night. “It just tasted funny. I don’t want it anymore.”  One more miracle and I’m pretty sure I can be up for sainthood, right??

It was very cold this morning, I had to put on a hoodie over my shorts! Since then I have been snuggled on my office sofa writing reviews and drinking a pot of Gingerbread Tea. Those warming spices make your entire body sigh. I’m finishing up one book and have a stack of Paula Brackston’s books to begin. Just for my own pleasure.

I hope y’all are staying warm if you are in this insane cold. Drink tea, wear socks or just hop in the hot tub and read a book!

xx P

BEST NEWS EVER!

I am so happy to be here this Wednesday! I had no idea it was so late in the afternoon. I was deep into one of Paula Brackston’s slip time tales and lost all track of time.

We had a rough few days. Tommy’s BP bottomed out and he crashed. Like into the wall and my knitting basket and then proceeded to throw up on the floor. It’s dark and I can’t see that well so I just stuck a can under his mouth and put a wet cloth on his head. Right before he passed out he said he was going to throw up and I knew from my own experiences that his blood pressure had gone way down too fast. Been there.

Monday we were scared of the visit to the cancer center and his surgeon. Well at the end of the day, NO. CANCER. And yesterday he met with his GP and she brought in a pharmacist to talk about which meds were causing issues and which ones he could drop. His blood work was perfect as usual and he is continuing to lose weight and stay away from the gallon of sweet tea. He even drank my SuperFoods Smoothie yesterday. Because his doctor told him to do what I do!! Win!

We have a notion that people change for 2 reasons. Fear or Recognition. And he has had both. He doesn’t want to stroke out and he’s looking pretty hot. So we celebrated by finishing The Crown! So good news all around. Except for my two sons and my mother and sister who are up there on the North Dakota/Canada border where it is -60! I feel for y’all, I really do. So sending warm thoughts to all of you in the frozen tundra areas!

Thank you all for the prayers and love! We are truly Thankful, Grateful and Blessed and reading your blogs has kept me sane and out of my own head. Isn’t it amazing how people can touch your life so intimately and yet you’ve never met them in the “real” world?

xx P

 

THANKFUL, GRATEFUL, AND TIRED!

Well we made it. Friday morning Tommy’s BP had been acceptable for 10 straight hours. Really good. Like normal people. 124 over 78! We finally found the right cocktail of meds. And I want to thank all of the nurses, especially Debbie at OU. Part of the anxiety and stress is the not knowing. And this beautiful woman shut the door and sat down and explained everything and wrote it down. They released him right after lunch and we headed to the pharmacy and got his new meds and then home for a nap in his own bed and a nice soak in the tub.

He was determined to go to Corbin’s first dance. And we made it. I was working the photo booth and he helped by corralling the props and herding the kids into a somewhat straight line.

The gym looked amazing, the DJ was really good, but the hottest ticket in the gym was the photo booth.

Those three little munchkins are best friends. Last year they were all the same height but as you can see Corbin had a growth spurt, but then we are all tall Viking people here. They danced their hearts out and took tons of pictures together and ate a lot of cookies but when it came time to go, little Alex did not want to take off her party shoes and go to her Grandmother’s house. She started to cry and the boys jumped right in to hug her and console her and offer for her to come with them. On the way out, Corbin said, ” Grandma, Emerson and me are cousins now.”  Really? ” Well then it’s okay if he calls me his Grandma too, then?” Uh, no.

I sent his dad a the above picture as he was home with Charli Ava and he wrote back, Good Lord Mom, he looks like a little Amish boy! Actually the boys had to have matching outfits, which were located finally at H & M. Corbin refused to wear the bow tie or boutonniere, as they felt funny on his skin.

We slept like the dead last night and woke up this morning feeling like we had the worst hangover ever! We didn’t realize how tightly we were wound up and I guess we just crashed finally. But everyone is doing well. Monday we meet with the surgeon at the Cancer Center and we’ll go from there. But I had to share Corbin’s first dance with y’all and thank you for all of your thoughts and love and prayers. You are all amazing!

xx P