Don’t You Want To Build A Snowman?

Still no snow! I’m beginning to think the weather man is in cahoots with the bread company. They keep promising, but it’s still going to be 60 degrees today. I don’t love snow. At. All. But we love us some snow people. Or maybe just marshmallows.

Yesterday I finally tried the Golden Milk Latte, made with Almond Milk and Turmeric. It was really good actually. I think I’ll keep it in the rotation.

I’m going to be taking a break from the blog for a bit. I’ll still have the book blog however and will still keep up with y’all’s shenanigans. We had the surgeons visit yesterday. And we spent the rest of the day clinging to each other and crying. Tommy took a pain pill and slept and I seriously sat and stared at the wall with my mind blank. We knew there was a mass on his thigh. We did not however know that there was a huge one on his pelvis. So the next few weeks will be tests for the Ortho doctor and praying for good news with the surgery. With everything up in the air I can’t commit to much for now.

Now that we have had a day to absorb this, we really aren’t saying much to our families. I’m sure none of them read this blog. We are not going to speak something bad in to existence, we are not going to be negative. We are each others greatest strength and the scars we have prove we showed up for life. We fought and we won. We will win again. In the meantime….I weave strong shining threads into a patchwork of magic…it comforts us as we wait for the world to right itself.

Happiest of Holidays to you all. Keep being awesome!

Much Love

P

 

TIME TO STOCK UP FOR THE WINTER STORM…OR NOT

Afternoon Y’all. I hope you are all safe and warm. The weather man says we have a really big winter storm headed our way this weekend. I’m always doubtful of that as Mother Nature and I have worked out a deal concerning cold wet stuff and I’m confident she will honor that.

In the continuing saga of the pumpkins….they are all gone! Day before yesterday the two big ones disappeared and that left one small one on one transformer and 2 small ones on the other. And all day I have watched over them to the point Tommy told me he wouldn’t be surprised if he came home and I had knit them some sweaters. And just when I thought oh crap, I’m just going to go get them and bring them inside,  just like that they were gone. In like less than a minute! I swear I ran to the bathroom came back and POOF gone. I feel awful now. Thank goodness they weren’t babies or puppies. I have a feeling my neighbor is doing this to me. He knows I love a good mystery.

I spent the entire day yesterday watching the Bush funeral. I don’t care what anyone’s opinion is about the man. If you weren’t old enough to vote at that time than hush. But we knew this man. One of my friends from high school was in his security detail and was there yesterday. The younger Bush we met when we lived in Dallas. We would go to the Rangers games and there would be George and Laura and the girls with their picnic basket sitting right across the aisle. It was fun and they were all lovely and fun to be with.. I don’t care what your politics are, they were a close and loving family so I sobbed all day.

We have a new coffee shop down the road and everyday they post the most delicious cupcakes and slices of rich, decadent cakes and I am seriously struggling to stay away from there. So we will look at some pretty pictures and pretend we ate them.

Stay safe. Stay warm. Be Kind. Eat the damn cupcake!

xx P

We’re All Mad Here!

Blue Monday. Since I was having Harney and Sons Yellow and Blue Tea this morning. It’s a lovely blend of Chamomile and Lavender with Cornflowers. It’s caffeine free and very calming. And since I am seeing my therapist in a couple of hours I needed calm.

Not so much from the visit, it’s the people in the waiting room. They seem to want to talk before they go in. A warm up I guess of what they are paying someone to hear them talk about.

The weather is still weird. Shorts one day and all the clothes you own the next. But none of the dreaded snow they keep predicting. We just had the one day of snow. If you blinked you missed it.

The stress of waiting for Tommy’s surgery is making me a bit snippy. I was outside yesterday when a neighbor commented that she loved the Menorah in my window. And then she said, ‘ I didn’t know you were Jewish.’ To which I said,” Well deep down and going all the way back, aren’t we all really?” I’m fairly sure she won’t talk to me again. Sarcasm is running rampant. And it isn’t even a menorah. It’s a candelabra set a friend gave us and it is beautiful and blue and was made by the company that originally made toilets. During the big war they didn’t have as much demand for those so until the war was over they made beautiful oval commode bowls and these double candle holders.

So I have to go cook now. Tommy can barely walk and this is seriously impacting my food delivery system. And my grocery shopping. I did cook a turkey Friday. I didn’t actually touch it or anything. I went and found my neighbor and he pulled out the icky bits and all I had to do was put in the oven. I wasn’t sure about the ‘neck’. I almost threw up when that came out. But Tommy was impressed and ate it and isn’t dead, so now I’m a gourmet cook.

Monday Love! xx P

WHAT WOULD WONDER WOMAN DO?

Friday Funday! Drinking my lovely cup of tea and watching the orange man in the oval office unravel as his entire crime family crumbles. I personally apologized to Trudeau and asked if I could come back to Canada. I find myself wondering  What would Wonder Woman do? Get that lasso of truth out and take care of business.

It’s difficult to remain mellow and nice when our pretentious country is in shambles and the state of Mississippi proved once again that they are racist and proud of it. Mississippi you are dead to me now. You elected a woman who is a known racist and bigot and who said publicly she would go to a public hanging. WTF is wrong with you people? Well I can tell you it’s the same thing that is wrong with Oklahoma. This time around at least we got those Democratic women in office. But like Mississippi, we are at the bottom in everything that matters including education and at the top in things like obesity. So we are raising a bunch of illiterate fat people. Yeah!

Common sense much like common decency is becoming less and less common. That’s my rant for Friday. Actually it helps take my mind off of the waiting and worrying about Tommy so if I hit a nerve, I apologize. ( no she doesn’t).

xx P

 

 

 

CUT TO THE CHAISE WITH A NICE CUPPA

This Cozy Mystery debuted this week. It was really good.

And what goes better with a Cozy Mystery than a nice cuppa?

It’s back to shorts weather today. I’m still not sure where I got all of that intense energy yesterday. I did start using Moringa in my SuperFood Smoothies so I may have to back off of that one. Energetic is not one of my goals. Being cared for by an adoring billionaire on the other hand is. Sorry honey.

I completely re-arranged my bedroom so I would have more space on one side, flipped the mattress and cleaned the blinds even. Normally I only clean ceiling fans and blinds on the first Monday. I think I was just trying to put something in order because my brain was not in order. It feels as if we are in a holding pattern. Unable to make even the simplest of decisions until we know the outcome of Tommy’s surgeries. He is still in a lot of pain so our appointment can’t get here soon enough.

Have a good evening and keep us in your thoughts!

xx P

A COZY MYSTERY AND SOME TEA

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What goes better than Tea and Scones? A cozy mystery by Ellery Adams. This one just made its debut this week and it is a really good series.

japanesesencah  And this is a really nice tea!

I’ve been busy catching up on book reviews, requests and collaborations. Tommy has doctors appointments scheduled for a biopsy of his esophagus and with the surgeon for his leg. He’s in constant pain and we are hoping we may be able to move up the dates from the 10th, but everyone and their brother are trying to use up their insurance for the year so it’s tough to get every doctor we need in one place.

The recliner situation has resolved itself. I knew yesterday afternoon when he told me to remember we were having dinner with his Aunt tonight. He never said one word about that to me. And I’m going to give him a pass because he is on drugs. I did not go to dinner because it was cold outside. 0 stars, did not recommend.  Turns out she just wanted to give us something for our house. They had a long talk and turns out there is just one little troublemaker skewing the stories around. That has been dealt with and all is well in the pirate nation. Also you should always go to the source of the info and not depend on someone else’s version of events.

We are so lucky to live surrounded by great neighbors who have been doing the heavy lifting and making sure we have all of their numbers so Tommy can just rest and manage his pain. So thanks y’all.

I think my brain is on auto-pilot lately.  I went to make tea this morning and noticed there was a smudge on a cabinet which led to a full on wash down of all cupboards and ceiling fans. Which led to cleaning the bathroom. This was all before 8 a.m.

Some really good things I’m proud of, my cousin Kristen, who was a helo pilot and Commander in Hawaii for the Army is a genius Engineer. She retired from the service and started an airline company as she and my uncle share that. She builds campers from scratch! And as of last week she is working for Virgin Galactica building things that will go into space! And she manages to coach her kid’s soccer teams and get them to all of their music and dance activities.

Hope you are having a good week and not freezing. Today it will be 61 degrees. Tomorrow? Who knows. This is Oklahoma.

xx P

SOUTHERN LIVING 2017 ANNUAL RECIPES from OXMOOR HOUSE

Southern Living Annual Recipes 2017: An Entire Year of Recipes by [The Editors of Southern Living]

Southern Living has been a part of my family for a lot of years. My mother collected the Christmas ones as well as the Annual Recipes.

When I went out on my own she would still send them to me. It’s a part of our shared Southern love for the food our families have always made.

The book is divided by months and seasons of the year with recipes for food in season. The pictures are always great and this is where I got my Chicken Pot Pie recipe. If you have never looked at one of their Christmas books, get yourself to the library and check them out!

Another memory on my bookshelf!

GOOD BYE NOVEMBER….You Sucked.

Our last week of November. The last days of Fall. And oh holy batman is today rough! All night the wind blew at around 40 to 56 mph. It was horrible. Our high temp for the day occurred at midnight last night. 50 degrees. Now it’s 40 and soon it will be in the 20’s.

Now mind you yesterday and the day before I was in shorts and a tank top. This is craziness.

Thanksgiving at my son Mike’s was perfect. Beautiful setting and great food and drink. Bing Crosby was crooning on the record player. It was just what we needed. Calm, peaceful and lots of love. Then Miss Evangeline turned 11 on Friday. We now have matching Fire Tablets. Sharing my love of reading makes me love her even more.

We have our appointments lined up and now that the shock has worn off a bit, I guess I feel better. I’m not bursting into tears every few minutes.

I have a question for you ladies. Do you ever feel invisible? I swear for 15 years I have felt invisible to my husband’s family. Yesterday his aunt called to tell him to come by Monday evening as she was taking him to the furniture store to buy him a recliner. I wasn’t mentioned. Is this normal? Because in my experience it is not. Who buys you a piece of furniture without consulting the person who handles the home? I am not a recliner person. She knows this as she offered us one before and we said no thank you.

I mean who does this? I’ve been married 5 times. I’ve had a good mother in law and some real horrid ones, but they never brought us furniture. I was really good with the one that gave me straight up cash in an envelope. Or a cruise. Or one time a piano that I had mentioned I wanted.

I guess I’m supposed to just be quiet and pretend it doesn’t hurt my feelings but it does. And right now I’m not in the mood for that bullshit. So keep your recliner and your money for all the cat food you need.

I would say sorry for being bitchy but I’m not so I won’t.

xx P

Laughing Through Our Tears

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This is a phrase I have been repeating since Friday. Tiny miracles. That is all I’m asking for. Just one.

We were at the clinic before 8 a.m. this morning. The good doctor is setting up surgeons and test times so we can deal with this as soon as possible. What is this?

Friday OU Boy started having really awful pain in his left leg and shortness of breath. Well if you have been here long enough you know that my former husband died of a pulmonary embolism. Panic ensued and we headed for the hospital. After they did an ultrasound of the entire leg and then a body CT with contrast we found out a few things.

One, his esophagus is thickening and he will need a procedure to address and biopsy that. Two, he had an area of shading in his lungs that looked like early pleurisy. Three, he had a mass the size of a tennis ball on his left thigh. This is a man who can tolerate pain more than any person I know, so if he is crying, it is bad.

This morning our doctor told us it may take a few days as it is a holiday this week and we will need Vascular and Neurosurgeon at least plus they want a more detailed MRI. So we don’t know anything until we get in there. There have been copious amounts of tea slurped, bouts of unexpected sobbing, and little sleep. Thank goodness the meds they gave him now are putting him out! But he is scared. I am scared. Hell, the doctors want to know how a 39-year-old man has 5 heart attacks, a CABG, and 5 stents. Plus this other crap now. This may explain his recent weight loss.

Yesterday when I had my Superfoods Smoothie I gave him a small glass. He said he’ll have another please today. I am determined to drag him over the health line kicking and screaming if I have to. I’ve already made two soups full of nutrients.

We have been binge watching Grace and Frankie on Netflix because it allows us to laugh and cry. And that’s life. There’s laughter and there are tears. Together they form a life. So if I’m not here everyday it’s because I am making sure this man is my top priority.

Now I think it’s time for a nap. Have a lovely Thanksgiving. I still have to buy a pie. Count your blessings and know we are thankful for all of you!

xx P

 

Today’s Mood….Tired With a Touch of Anxiety

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So far Monday has been a multiple cups of strong tea day. It was 20 degrees outside and cold!

This has been a week-end. And because it has been a pretty bad one which included a trip to the ER, a lot of tears and hopefully soon some answers.

I am trying to keep that darn anxiety fairy quiet and calmly digest what our next move should be so OU Boy and I posted up on the sofas and watched Netflix. He was doped up on pain meds and I was randomly bursting into tears so watching Grace and Frankie was good. We cried, we laughed and went to bed very early as we had not slept the night before.

So, for a bit I may not be here as much. My first job is this man I love and I’m determined to fix him. All good wishes and prayers are welcome and appreciated.

xx P