Happy Valentine’s Day!

Oh Wednesday, I am so happy to see you! I’m trying to ease back into my schedule now that the horrible plague and Tommy’s surgery are over. He went to work this morning. I doubt if he’ll make it an entire day, but he’s determined.

Yesterday he overdid it and ended up having to take a pain pill and that started the throwing up so we missed Corbin’s musical event last night, which killed us, but I got video and it was so cute.

So the house was very quiet when I got up this morning. I came around the living room corner to go make tea and almost had a stroke. There was a 7 foot tall balloon bouquet standing there and I screamed “I have a bat!” The worst part? I put it there. It was for Tommy for Valentines Day. Because we celebrate so many birthdays tomorrow we do V-Day early.  The heat had kicked on and it was swaying like one  of those things in front of a car dealership. Scared me good. And not just once. Coming back too! That was pre-caffeine.

The Whisky Cake Café 🥃😍😍

We went to Whiskey Cake Cafe’ the day before surgery and I had this delicious Parsnip-Apple Soup. Oh was it good. This is the famous whiskey cake. Gayle ordered Gingersnap Ice cream with hers and declared it transformative. It also comes with a bowl of freshly whipped cream. It was all delicious, the cake has whiskey and apples and sticky toffee…yum. If you haven’t been please do. The place is so cute and everything was just warm and welcoming.

Time to put on the running shoes and get back at it. Hope your day is peaceful and warm.

xx P

Happy Monday~ GREAT NEWS!!

Happy Monday~ It has been a long weekend here. Cold too. I hope you are all safe and warm.

Friday’s surgery was an all day affair. We finally got back to the OR and of course I asked Dr. White if I could see the tumor. He was very quick to offer to take a picture. Almost gleeful. Aunt Gayle and I posted up it the waiting area right out side the OR with about 50 other people who had not read the memo on NO CHILDREN BEYOND THIS POINT. So I pointed it out to them. For hours I drank tea, listened shamelessly to other people’s conversations and silently judged the ones who had NOT turned their phones off. Well maybe not so silently, but I was stressed.

A few hours in I received a call from Diane in the OR to meet the good doctor in the hall real quick. We were like giddy kids doing something behind our parents back! He had the picture and then took my phone and took one next to a ruler so you all could share in the gory thing he and I decided to call “Da Tumor” in our best Terminator voices.

So for the squeamish or faint of heart, look away!

I sent it to my sister and said, “We had a baby! It’s a boy/girl/mutant!” Actually our Oncologist said he is certain it is not cancerous, although we are waiting on final confirmation from the pathologist. Just a bunch of fat. Which Gayle and I wondered if it had just banded together and formed this long 2 pound ovoid and how could we get our fat to work that out???

The weekend was spent doling out meds. Oxycodone and Tommy don’t really go well together. Lots of throwing up and passing out. Today he is going down to just Motrin and believe it or not he’s going back to work on Wednesday. He has slept a lot and I have read a lot. Plus my mother went home from the hospital on Saturday.

I want to take a minute to say Thank You to all of you who were praying and sending us good thoughts! It means the world to us. After surgery when he could sit up we just clung to each other and prayed and gave thanks and cried and released a ton of weight off of our shoulders.

The up side of this is how seriously he is taking his recovery and drinking SuperFood Smoothies with me and hardly drinking any iced sweet tea. But a lot of herbal tea.

I’m headed to the market as I don’t think he will live on spinach much longer!

Happy Monday and Here is a big hug and kisses for you all!

xx P

Pretty Hearts, Parents and Husbands

As we have been busy making heart garlands and pouring glitter over styrofoam hearts and other crafty things someone let winter in again! I’m not going to say anything about who that may be but someone did say they were sending me some snow!

I personally did not know about this development until 3 a.m. when I received a text saying there would be no school today. Or Library due to weather conditions. I looked out the window and didn’t see anything but apparently it rained last night and the temperature dropped to single digits and the roads were solid sheets of ice. On I-40 there were at least 40 semi trucks lined up on the shoulder of the highway. The sun is acting like it has no idea what is happening, just shining bright as ever but it’s 20 before the wind chill and the wind is vicious.

No mind, Tommy has been getting all his pre-op stuff done today and he had no trouble on the roads to OU. I’m assuming some of the staff did as they still haven’t shown up. Yesterday sister Susan let me know she had Momma in the ER and they were taking her by ambulance to Minot as she was septic. Well I’m gonna not comment on that right now. But we were all terribly worried. Have you seen the weather up there yesterday? Well finally they got her in and settled and began giving her IV antibiotics and fluids and trying to figure out where the infection was. If you don’t know we are a morbid family you will shortly. My Momma is a Charleston girl born and bred. Old South. And of all the folks who could be in the same hospital and in the same room with her is an older black woman from the same place. What are the odds of that? I sent my sister a text. ” May God Help Us All.” I’m still not sure why they brought her to Minot. I think it’s because the nurses at St.Andrew’s just weren’t having it again. She is not a good patient.

Anyway they are all on their own as we get ready for surgery tomorrow. Tommy’s meeting with the anesthesiologist now and that’s the final thing. Hopefully then we can eat.

I wish you all a warm and safe day and weekend! Do a little self-care!

xx P

 

A WINTER WALTZ

Wednesday Love to you all! While we still have no snow, I think I would rather have that than the constant drizzle of freezing rain. Mother Nature in Oklahoma is much like a menopausal woman. Freezing one minute and hot as hell the next. It’s just too much to keep up with.

I love this little winter poem. I love the idea of winter and snow. I love the reality of sandy beaches and sunshine! Are you still in the deep freeze? With this allergy turned bronchitis mess, I’ve been stuck in the house under covers drinking copious amounts of tea, full of herbal goodness. Last night my fever broke just as Tommy’s blood pressure tanked again and he almost passed out again. I wish I had a video of that scene. Him yelling, ” I’m going to throw up!” And me running for a bucket and making a Heisman worthy jump over the coffee table to land with my arm outstretched with the bucket which barely made it under his mouth in time.

I was worried about him all night. Slept with my hand on his chest to make sure he was breathing. Finally he grabbed my hand and told me he was okay now. This morning I told him if he was going to keep trying to faint and barf I was going to rearrange the furniture so none of my things would get broken. The poor man was just barfing away while I had my fingers in my ears humming loudly.

Today I feel better. I’m coughing, but it’s a good cough and I don’t feel like crawling into a hole and dying. Which is really good since tomorrow is the big day for pre-op work and then surgery on Friday. Keep those prayers coming!

My nephew’s long time girlfriend was killed in a car accident yesterday in Pass Christian, Mississippi so we are doubling down on the prayer. He is such a sweet boy, who isn’t really a boy anymore, but he will always be the baby.

Have a great day. Be Kind. Drink Tea.

xx P

Hello February! Chapter Two

It is a bit late in the day for me. Not feeling up to snuff today. Sipping on some Sugar Plum Fairy pink tea, welcoming in February. While it says rain and clouds on the weather app, the glaring sun and warm temperatures are saying something else. I know because the sprinkler system doesn’t come on unless it’s over 54 degrees and it came on today.

So everyone we know has this ‘flu’ thingy. And this morning I woke up with a sore throat and a headache along with a sensitive tummy. So I made some Turmeric Tea and filled the bath with Lavender Epsom Salts and proceeded to try to exorcise whatever demon has taken up residence in my body. Said body was highly offended at the intrusion of a germ. I mean for cripe’s sake, all I eat are fruits and vegetables and good for you stuff. But tiny terrorists at the school don’t care. They freely spread their little germs to all who enter the Kindergarten domain.

We are a firm go for next Friday, with pre-op on Thursday. I am a bit peeved that the patient told his aunt she could come and sit with me during the surgery. More than a bit. I was planning on finishing up the new Citizenship Study Guide and now I will have to make small talk. I despise small talk.

I am now off to go moan and groan to my sister. I’m quite sure she will be sympathetic as she is living it up at the beach! Love you MJ!

Have a great week-end and please stay warm all of you in the polar vortex. Read a book or watch a movie, just do some self-care and stay warm!

xx P

FROSTY MORNINGS AND TOASTY MUGS!

BRRRR!!! I am not even going to start whining about how cold it is. 47 degrees but it’s a dry cold. WTF? I don’t know, but I feel horrible complaining when my mother is up to her tiny little neck in snow and my sons are in the frozen tundra of -60. Doesn’t mean I won’t complain, but I am aware how lucky we are to have been spared this polar vortex.

We are getting our ducks in a row for surgery next Friday. Thank you for all the well wishes. I think we are getting everything under control. This morning Tommy told me I could toss that pitcher of sweet tea he made last night. “It just tasted funny. I don’t want it anymore.”  One more miracle and I’m pretty sure I can be up for sainthood, right??

It was very cold this morning, I had to put on a hoodie over my shorts! Since then I have been snuggled on my office sofa writing reviews and drinking a pot of Gingerbread Tea. Those warming spices make your entire body sigh. I’m finishing up one book and have a stack of Paula Brackston’s books to begin. Just for my own pleasure.

I hope y’all are staying warm if you are in this insane cold. Drink tea, wear socks or just hop in the hot tub and read a book!

xx P

BEST NEWS EVER!

I am so happy to be here this Wednesday! I had no idea it was so late in the afternoon. I was deep into one of Paula Brackston’s slip time tales and lost all track of time.

We had a rough few days. Tommy’s BP bottomed out and he crashed. Like into the wall and my knitting basket and then proceeded to throw up on the floor. It’s dark and I can’t see that well so I just stuck a can under his mouth and put a wet cloth on his head. Right before he passed out he said he was going to throw up and I knew from my own experiences that his blood pressure had gone way down too fast. Been there.

Monday we were scared of the visit to the cancer center and his surgeon. Well at the end of the day, NO. CANCER. And yesterday he met with his GP and she brought in a pharmacist to talk about which meds were causing issues and which ones he could drop. His blood work was perfect as usual and he is continuing to lose weight and stay away from the gallon of sweet tea. He even drank my SuperFoods Smoothie yesterday. Because his doctor told him to do what I do!! Win!

We have a notion that people change for 2 reasons. Fear or Recognition. And he has had both. He doesn’t want to stroke out and he’s looking pretty hot. So we celebrated by finishing The Crown! So good news all around. Except for my two sons and my mother and sister who are up there on the North Dakota/Canada border where it is -60! I feel for y’all, I really do. So sending warm thoughts to all of you in the frozen tundra areas!

Thank you all for the prayers and love! We are truly Thankful, Grateful and Blessed and reading your blogs has kept me sane and out of my own head. Isn’t it amazing how people can touch your life so intimately and yet you’ve never met them in the “real” world?

xx P

 

Lazy Sundays Are The Best!

It’s a bright and shiny Sunday here. 59 degrees and that sun makes a huge difference in your mood. On days like this I wake up like Cinderella, stretching and waiting for the birds to make my bed. Happy and Content. Today I’m sipping on a good standard, Earl Grey and cleaning up my mess in the craft room.

My friend, Pamela, came over yesterday afternoon for a cup of tea and gossip. Neither one of us knows any so that was a short conversation. She brought me a very large bag from Michael’s Crafts chock full of Valentine supplies and red and pink boas. She always overbuys and I get what is left. So I’ve been busy making heart garlands for the windows and turning boas into wreaths.

I know we are late to the party but we started watching The Crown last night and before we knew it midnight was here! I spent the entire time fact checking on google! I had to promise not to watch the rest today until Tommy gets home. Yes, he is back at work. Which means he’s laying on a bed watching movies at one of the Hyatts.

Interesting conversation in my head last night. I never see babies named Karen. Or Cinderella. With all of the oddball names out there how come no one has picked up on Cinderella or Malificent? Or Karen? What’s the oddest baby name you’ve heard? I have to say mine was when I was helping a fellow teacher with her Kindergarten enrollment day. A mommy came over and told me her daughter’s name was Asshole’. Pronounced ASH-Ole’. When I asked her how she spelled that I realized she had named her kid asshole. I guess it’s all in how you pronounce something.

Tomorrow we will be at the cancer center so fingers crossed Quick trivia question from church….What fruit does the Bible say Eve tempted Adam with? I knew this one. Do you?

xx P

 

THANKFUL, GRATEFUL, AND TIRED!

Well we made it. Friday morning Tommy’s BP had been acceptable for 10 straight hours. Really good. Like normal people. 124 over 78! We finally found the right cocktail of meds. And I want to thank all of the nurses, especially Debbie at OU. Part of the anxiety and stress is the not knowing. And this beautiful woman shut the door and sat down and explained everything and wrote it down. They released him right after lunch and we headed to the pharmacy and got his new meds and then home for a nap in his own bed and a nice soak in the tub.

He was determined to go to Corbin’s first dance. And we made it. I was working the photo booth and he helped by corralling the props and herding the kids into a somewhat straight line.

The gym looked amazing, the DJ was really good, but the hottest ticket in the gym was the photo booth.

Those three little munchkins are best friends. Last year they were all the same height but as you can see Corbin had a growth spurt, but then we are all tall Viking people here. They danced their hearts out and took tons of pictures together and ate a lot of cookies but when it came time to go, little Alex did not want to take off her party shoes and go to her Grandmother’s house. She started to cry and the boys jumped right in to hug her and console her and offer for her to come with them. On the way out, Corbin said, ” Grandma, Emerson and me are cousins now.”  Really? ” Well then it’s okay if he calls me his Grandma too, then?” Uh, no.

I sent his dad a the above picture as he was home with Charli Ava and he wrote back, Good Lord Mom, he looks like a little Amish boy! Actually the boys had to have matching outfits, which were located finally at H & M. Corbin refused to wear the bow tie or boutonniere, as they felt funny on his skin.

We slept like the dead last night and woke up this morning feeling like we had the worst hangover ever! We didn’t realize how tightly we were wound up and I guess we just crashed finally. But everyone is doing well. Monday we meet with the surgeon at the Cancer Center and we’ll go from there. But I had to share Corbin’s first dance with y’all and thank you for all of your thoughts and love and prayers. You are all amazing!

xx P