Don’t You Want To Build A Snowman?

Still no snow! I’m beginning to think the weather man is in cahoots with the bread company. They keep promising, but it’s still going to be 60 degrees today. I don’t love snow. At. All. But we love us some snow people. Or maybe just marshmallows.

Yesterday I finally tried the Golden Milk Latte, made with Almond Milk and Turmeric. It was really good actually. I think I’ll keep it in the rotation.

I’m going to be taking a break from the blog for a bit. I’ll still have the book blog however and will still keep up with y’all’s shenanigans. We had the surgeons visit yesterday. And we spent the rest of the day clinging to each other and crying. Tommy took a pain pill and slept and I seriously sat and stared at the wall with my mind blank. We knew there was a mass on his thigh. We did not however know that there was a huge one on his pelvis. So the next few weeks will be tests for the Ortho doctor and praying for good news with the surgery. With everything up in the air I can’t commit to much for now.

Now that we have had a day to absorb this, we really aren’t saying much to our families. I’m sure none of them read this blog. We are not going to speak something bad in to existence, we are not going to be negative. We are each others greatest strength and the scars we have prove we showed up for life. We fought and we won. We will win again. In the meantime….I weave strong shining threads into a patchwork of magic…it comforts us as we wait for the world to right itself.

Happiest of Holidays to you all. Keep being awesome!

Much Love

P

 

TIME TO STOCK UP FOR THE WINTER STORM…OR NOT

Afternoon Y’all. I hope you are all safe and warm. The weather man says we have a really big winter storm headed our way this weekend. I’m always doubtful of that as Mother Nature and I have worked out a deal concerning cold wet stuff and I’m confident she will honor that.

In the continuing saga of the pumpkins….they are all gone! Day before yesterday the two big ones disappeared and that left one small one on one transformer and 2 small ones on the other. And all day I have watched over them to the point Tommy told me he wouldn’t be surprised if he came home and I had knit them some sweaters. And just when I thought oh crap, I’m just going to go get them and bring them inside,  just like that they were gone. In like less than a minute! I swear I ran to the bathroom came back and POOF gone. I feel awful now. Thank goodness they weren’t babies or puppies. I have a feeling my neighbor is doing this to me. He knows I love a good mystery.

I spent the entire day yesterday watching the Bush funeral. I don’t care what anyone’s opinion is about the man. If you weren’t old enough to vote at that time than hush. But we knew this man. One of my friends from high school was in his security detail and was there yesterday. The younger Bush we met when we lived in Dallas. We would go to the Rangers games and there would be George and Laura and the girls with their picnic basket sitting right across the aisle. It was fun and they were all lovely and fun to be with.. I don’t care what your politics are, they were a close and loving family so I sobbed all day.

We have a new coffee shop down the road and everyday they post the most delicious cupcakes and slices of rich, decadent cakes and I am seriously struggling to stay away from there. So we will look at some pretty pictures and pretend we ate them.

Stay safe. Stay warm. Be Kind. Eat the damn cupcake!

xx P

WHAT WOULD WONDER WOMAN DO?

Friday Funday! Drinking my lovely cup of tea and watching the orange man in the oval office unravel as his entire crime family crumbles. I personally apologized to Trudeau and asked if I could come back to Canada. I find myself wondering  What would Wonder Woman do? Get that lasso of truth out and take care of business.

It’s difficult to remain mellow and nice when our pretentious country is in shambles and the state of Mississippi proved once again that they are racist and proud of it. Mississippi you are dead to me now. You elected a woman who is a known racist and bigot and who said publicly she would go to a public hanging. WTF is wrong with you people? Well I can tell you it’s the same thing that is wrong with Oklahoma. This time around at least we got those Democratic women in office. But like Mississippi, we are at the bottom in everything that matters including education and at the top in things like obesity. So we are raising a bunch of illiterate fat people. Yeah!

Common sense much like common decency is becoming less and less common. That’s my rant for Friday. Actually it helps take my mind off of the waiting and worrying about Tommy so if I hit a nerve, I apologize. ( no she doesn’t).

xx P

 

 

 

Laughing Through Our Tears

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This is a phrase I have been repeating since Friday. Tiny miracles. That is all I’m asking for. Just one.

We were at the clinic before 8 a.m. this morning. The good doctor is setting up surgeons and test times so we can deal with this as soon as possible. What is this?

Friday OU Boy started having really awful pain in his left leg and shortness of breath. Well if you have been here long enough you know that my former husband died of a pulmonary embolism. Panic ensued and we headed for the hospital. After they did an ultrasound of the entire leg and then a body CT with contrast we found out a few things.

One, his esophagus is thickening and he will need a procedure to address and biopsy that. Two, he had an area of shading in his lungs that looked like early pleurisy. Three, he had a mass the size of a tennis ball on his left thigh. This is a man who can tolerate pain more than any person I know, so if he is crying, it is bad.

This morning our doctor told us it may take a few days as it is a holiday this week and we will need Vascular and Neurosurgeon at least plus they want a more detailed MRI. So we don’t know anything until we get in there. There have been copious amounts of tea slurped, bouts of unexpected sobbing, and little sleep. Thank goodness the meds they gave him now are putting him out! But he is scared. I am scared. Hell, the doctors want to know how a 39-year-old man has 5 heart attacks, a CABG, and 5 stents. Plus this other crap now. This may explain his recent weight loss.

Yesterday when I had my Superfoods Smoothie I gave him a small glass. He said he’ll have another please today. I am determined to drag him over the health line kicking and screaming if I have to. I’ve already made two soups full of nutrients.

We have been binge watching Grace and Frankie on Netflix because it allows us to laugh and cry. And that’s life. There’s laughter and there are tears. Together they form a life. So if I’m not here everyday it’s because I am making sure this man is my top priority.

Now I think it’s time for a nap. Have a lovely Thanksgiving. I still have to buy a pie. Count your blessings and know we are thankful for all of you!

xx P

 

I’m going to need more than tea and warm socks Y’all!

It is cold. Ungodly cold. I had to put on pants! I’m looking at all my family and friends posts showing all the snow. And no we don’t have any yet. So for all of y’all over there in Denver, no I’m not coming to shovel your snow. As my mother would say, ” You made your bed, now lay in it”. No I don’t know what that means except it’s not my fault you are up to your ankles in snow. I told you.

My lovely sister Victoria Beth has started her Christmas decorating. And y’all I mean this girl is dedicated. She changes out the art on the walls, the linens, all kinds of stuff that makes me shudder. But she is committed and I admire her style.

I’m doing a beach theme. Which is what my house is decorated as so I really just have to slap up a tree and toss some sand around and BOOM! done. I did light a Pine candle.

I wanted to tell you about the cute thing my lovely daughter-in -love started.26167336_1513544085360106_5284659085880348317_n

She did this last year and it went well. So this year we all jumped on!

Come on friends! Spread the love this holiday! ❤️

🎅🏼🎁💃🏽🎄SECRET SISTER is back! It is so fun and an amazing way to bless so many people!! I am looking for AT LEAST 6 ladies interested in a holiday gift exchange. Doesn’t matter where you live – you are welcome to join. You have to buy one gift valued of at least $10 and send it to your secret sis. (Hello, Amazon!) you will then receive 6-36 gifts in return. This is so much fun! I loved sending a gift to a complete stranger knowing that she would have a bright spot in her day because of what I sent 🎁Let me know if you’re interested, and I will send you information about your sister. 💃🏽We could all use some happy mail! Who’s in? I tagged a few I thought might be interested, but anyone is welcome to join the fun! Just comment “I’m in” 🎄

When you comment I’m in, you will get a PM with all the rules and really it’s just copy and paste and wait. Get a gift and send it to the first name on the list then move the second name to the top and put yours second. I’ve already gone to Harney and Sons and ordered one for my person and got free shipping and they mail it. It’s lovely thing to do.

Here is what the PM looks like:

Welcome to our Secret Sister Gift Exchange!! It is a lot of fun!!

Here’s how it works:
(1) copy the secret sister request that I posted on my Facebook wall to your own wall

(2) you send one gift valued at least $10 to the secret sister that is NUMBER ONE below

(3) remove secret sister’s name from #1 then move secret sister #2 to that spot

(4) add your name to the #2 spot with your info

(5) send this info to all the ladies that respond to your post with the updated name info

If you cannot complete this within 1 week please let me know as it is not fair to the ladies who have participated and are waiting for their gifts to arrive

You can order directly from a web-based service (Amazon) which saves you a trip to the post office soon you will receive 6-36 gifts Seldom does anyone drop out because it’s so much fun to send and receive a gift from someone you may or may not know you should start receiving gifts in about 2 weeks if you get this letter out to all the ladies that have responded right away!!

#1 Stacy Trigg
2721 NW 24th St
Oklahoma City, OK 73107

#2 Jodi Lopp
1321 NW 8th St.
Oklahoma City, OK 73106

So I did this one and then I had my own chain begin. I don’t even know these people. Well some I do and they were up at the crack of dawn telling me they were in!

It’s cold and I’m going to read and I hope you all stay warm and do some self care!

xx P

 

Kindergarten Woes and a London Fog

Oh Thursday….really? 40 is the best you can do today? And with rain? It isn’t winter yet Mother Nature. I am not ready for socks and layers and coats. Especially coats. But this morning I made myself an Earl Grey London Fog and warmed the cockles of my heart. I have no idea where the cockles are but I’m feeling very Wuthering Heights today.

They ( No, I don’t know who they is) say that man plans and God laughs. That was yesterday. The minute I finished work and was looking forward to reading and doing some yoga the phone rang. I looked and saw it was my son. Long story short, Papa got to pick up Corbin from school. I love how excited he gets when he sees his Papa at the gate. The pure joy on their faces as Corbin throws himself into his Papa’s arms shouting to everyone, “Look! It’s my Papa!” Although now we are so well know that if another child sees us first they all start yelling, “Look it’s Corbin’s Papa/Gramma”.

He grabbed my tablet as soon as he deposited his belongings on the floor. Got right down to playing Temple Run 2. Until….I looked at his daily report. Mr. Perfect got in trouble for laughing and playing in the bathroom. Now I’m conflicted because I am at the school a lot and no adult accompanies any of the Kindergarten classes to the bathroom. They just go on their own and I don’t like that. Seriously if you find 3 of your besties in the bathroom it’s something to shout about! So sorry but this goes in the non punishment category. He knows he made the wrong choice and it’s Kindergarten for cripes sakes.

Had to take him shopping at the market where he met another little girl and they proceeded to want everything in the store. He got socks. And crackers. Miss Charli had a wonderful time at the Philharmonic and told us all about the bass. She goes to a special class after school that is a more in-depth look at critical thinking, science and math so she had a full day yesterday and was tired.

I am trying the Butternut Squash Soup With Pear again today. I think the pears we found just weren’t flavorful enough, so I’m trying some different ones. I swear I could eat this soup every day.

Stay warm out there and be kind. Lord knows we need some kindness right now.

xx P

Read Books, Drink Tea and Chill

It’s Monday! Never have I been so excited to see you Monday. Why? Fall Break is over and the children are back to school! I’m having a nice Chai to celebrate that one!

We are drying out here in OKC. The sun is shining and the lake is calling. I am up early hoping to get back on my regular schedule. Having two children for two weeks of break, has almost broken me. My schedule went out the window and binge watching the entire Halloween Movie Series has left me with some serious damage from eye rolling! Even the kids were yelling, “Why are you going in there???” The moral we got from this series is that if you are making out with a boy, you are going to die. Scared straight for now.

Then we had the Romero classics. All of Night of the Living Dead ( They’re coming for you Barbara) P.S. My mother’s name is Barbara so we get a lot of fun out of this one. All the Zombie shows were watched. Pumpkins have been decorated, candy eaten and by yesterday morning I was letting them eat bread.

I tried to have an adult conversation at the hardware store, asking for one of those things that keep water in the sink. The man behind me started roaring with laughter and said, “You don’t do dishes much, do you?” No, I say, I don’t. But my lack of brain matter is because it is Fall Break. Ooooooo, he says. Gotcha!

I now understand why people drink. And buy Benadryl. Most of last night was spent staring at the wall.

Today I am going to try to get back on track. Try. I may need multiple pots of tea, but I am going to try. ( I’m probably going back to bed).

xx Patricia

His Sixth Birthday Party….but he’s still 4

A gloomy Sunday out there today. It feels damp and it is cloudy. A good day for some English Breakfast Tea!

Yesterday was the birthday party for Corbin who is now 6. Although he just told his mom he’s only 4, so I guess it’s never too early to lie about your age.

The party was at Memorial Park which is huge and has everything a kid could want. Not too hot,not too windy. Charli and Papa preferred to sit in the shade and play games and eat those no bake cookies. The pinata was the hit of the party with kids going in for the candy like a swarm of bees.

It was all of the cousins and his classmates. The little blonde girl is his “friend”. She is also very bossy and over dramatic. As in she had a blister on her heel from the monkey bars. Yeah, puzzle that one out! They ran and played and ate everything in sight and we ducked out with Charli and went home to play games and watch television and just sit!

All in all it was a really good day and everyone had fun. Today Charli and I are doing nothing. I’ve written my tea cards and stamped those and many games have been played and music videos watched.

I hope you had a good week-end and are doing some self-care and recharging for Monday!

xx Patricia

A LESSON IN LOVE AND SOME TEA!


Good Saturday morning! Technically not morning but close enough. I’m going to talk about tea in a second. First I want to talk about these pictures.

We had our last class in the Monarch Garden yesterday afternoon. We released our Monarch, cleaned up the messes and by then it was time for school to be out. Our kids go from 9:10 to 4:00 p.m. The Fall Fundraiser and Pumpkin and Plant Sale began at 4:30 so I had just enough time to grab Corbin, give him a snack, find S.J. and S.J.’s mom and head to the ticket table.

After my shift the boys got Spiders painted on their faces and then proceeded to be boys and run for hours. They hit a bump in the road and Corbin fell. S.J. was there before me and Tommy was taking pictures. S.J. helped Corbin up, where they both laughed and then automatically hugged.

You see that? Our natural response is love.For anyone. Where do we lose that? Who told us to stop? As for me I am proud of my boys for not losing that sense of love and friendship. Our kids learn by example. What kind of example are you? Think about that.

First cool day deserves a little extra. Bigelow This is the Bigelow Salted Caramel Tea I sent in the mail last week. On its own it’s naturally sweet and yummy but it got sinful with a teaspoon of caramel sauce. Later it went to a new level entirely when instead of the caramel I used Dulce de Leche. Nirvana in my mouth, Y’all!!

It has been a busy week and it’s not over. This morning I made the Chocolate Peanut Butter No Bake Cookies for Corbin’s birthday party in 2 hours. Then made a casserole to heat up for later. Presents are wrapped, except for the giant plush tiger from Tommy’s Aunt Gayle.  Now to relax for a bit and get ready for a lot of 6 year olds high on sugar at the park.

Have a good Saturday and may the football Gods shine on your team!

xx Patricia